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5 min readStop Making Excuses: How to Change Your Life Right Now
Gary Vaynerchuk opens with a startling claim: the person listening to this conversation is "on the cusp" of change. They have already gotten up from the stands and are standing on the sideline of the pickup basketball court, hesitating. The only thing separating them from action is that hesitation—and the internal dialogue that justifies staying put.
Vaynerchuk, who inspired Mel Robbins to start posting on social media twelve years ago and whose work she credits with helping her write The 5 Second Rule and get out of $800,000 in debt, came to Boston for one reason: to convince listeners that they are "obnoxiously more capable of changing than they realize." The change, he insists, is "shockingly simple and the hardest thing in the world."
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What you'll learn
- 1 Main Outline
- 2 (00:08) **Mel's Personal Introduction to Gary Vaynerchuk** - Mel explains how Gary inspired her to start posting online 12 years ago, leading to her books, podcast, and getting out of debt
- 3 (05:35) **Why Life Gets Lighter When You Stop Focusing on the Wrong Things** - Gary explains that people make mountains out of molehills and only recalibrate when real hardship hits
- 4 (06:52) **The Power of Being Misunderstood** - Gary shares how being told he was "wrong" repeatedly shaped his resilience and independence
- 5 (09:39) **Stop Needing Others to Understand You** - Gary challenges the idea that you need your spouse, parents, or coworkers to fully "get" you
- 6 (11:58) **Fear, Cynicism, and the Algorithm Exposing You** - Gary connects fear and cynicism to what you consume, including social media algorithms
- 7 (15:10) **Action Over Excuses: Therapy vs. Stuff** - Gary argues that people buy material things to cover up pain they should be addressing with therapy
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Show Notes
This episode is a MUST-listen.
If you’ve ever felt behind, scared, stuck, or doubting yourself, you need to hit play.
Today, Mel sits down with someone who has been a mentor from afar for more than 12 years. Mel says she would not be where she is today without the person sitting across from her.
For more than a decade, Gary Vaynerchuk has been one of Mel’s biggest inspirations - and in this conversation, he is here to challenge you to stop making excuses and start changing your life.
Gary is one of the most successful entrepreneurs and creators of his generation, a six-time New York Times bestselling author, and the force behind VaynerX, VaynerMedia, and VeeFriends.
If you’ve been sitting on an idea, watching other people do the thing you want to do, worrying about what people will think, or telling yourself you’re too late, you need to hear this.
Gary will challenge the way you think about fear, regret, comparison, confidence, your career, other people’s opinions, and the excuses that are keeping you stuck.
You’ll learn why the people you listen to shape who you become, why your embarrassment can become your advantage, why peace of mind matters more than status, and why one action could change the entire direction of your life.
Gary also shares his advice for anyone who wants to start a business, change careers, put themselves out there, or finally take the risk they’ve been thinking about for years.
His message is simple: there is something you are amazing at - and the longer you sit around watching everybody else do it, the more it costs you.
You’ll also learn:
- What your algorithm reveals about who you are
- Why you need to start living your life with your funeral in mind
- The 3 words that are keeping you stuck
- Gary’s #1 tip if you’re unemployed or looking for a new job
- How to stop blaming your parents for your circumstances
- How to build self-confidence and let go of your need to be accepted
- Why peace of mind is the secret to a rich life
This conversation will push you to stop waiting for the right time, stop letting other people’s opinions control your decisions, and stop living in a way that leaves you saying, “I wish I…”
By the time it’s over, you’ll know exactly what you need to do next - and you’ll feel inspired to go do it.
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