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5 min readThe thought “I should be further along by now” feels like a statement of fact, but it is actually a costly mindset that actively prevents progress. Charlotte Smith, a farm marketing expert and certified mindset coach, explains that this single sentence keeps her clients stuck not because it makes them feel bad, but because of what it makes them do next: quit, loop in frustration, or take frantic, unproductive action. The episode walks through the mechanism of how this thought operates, why it is so deceptive, and how to replace it with a thought that actually moves you forward.
The Thought Is Not a Fact
Smith begins by asking listeners to notice what happens in their body when they say, “I should be further along.” For her, shoulders sink and her neck tightens. That physical reaction is a clue: the sentence is a thought, not a truth. It feels obvious, but there is no external schedule or rule book that says you should be at a specific point by now. The “should” is arbitrary, often created from a feeling of not being good enough and repeated until it seems like reality. Other versions include “this should be easier,” “I should have dealt with this by now,” and “I’m too old to be doing it this way.” All are the same flavor of thought, and all produce the same result.
How It Blocks Progress: The Thought-Feeling-Action Chain
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What you'll learn
- 1 (00:00) **Introduction and Episode Premise** - Host Charlotte Smith introduces the topic: the costly mindset of "I should be further along."
- 2 (03:48) **Live Class Announcement: "How to Say No Without Losing the People You Love"** - Charlotte promotes an October 4th class that addresses why many women aren't further along — they said yes to everyone else first.
- 3 (04:59) **The Main Mechanism: Expecting Success as an Obstacle** - Charlotte explains the counterintuitive idea that the expectation "I should be further along" actively prevents you from getting what you want.
- 4 (09:10) **The Thought-Feeling-Action Chain** - Charlotte breaks down how this thought creates feelings of defeat, which then drive unproductive actions.
- 5 (12:05) **Example of Frantic Activity from the Same Mindset** - Charlotte shows how the "I should be further along" thought can look like effort but still be useless.
- 6 (15:50) **The Coaching Turnaround** - Charlotte describes how a single coaching question helped the client see her own mindset and shift it.
- 7 (19:57) **Four Unmet Expectations Behind the Thought** - Charlotte identifies four common reasons people think "I should be further along."
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Show Notes
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"I should be further along by now."
Notice what that sentence does to your shoulders. That reaction is your clue.
Charlotte Smith calls this success expectancy, and it is one of the most expensive thoughts her clients bring to coaching calls. It feels like an accurate description of your life. It is a mindset, and it is the thing standing between you and the result you want.
In this episode you will hear real coaching examples: the client who stopped marketing for weeks, and the client planning 18-hour days to hit a deadline she invented. You will learn the four expectations hiding underneath the thought and the three-step protocol to replace it.
Your only assignment this week is to notice whether that sentence is running in the background.
What You'll Learn
- Why "I should be further along" is a thought you can change, not a fact you have to live with
- How expecting success can actively prevent success
- The four hidden expectations underneath the thought: timeline, effort, skills, and investment
- The three-step thought protocol Charlotte uses with clients to build a mindset that holds up in month nine
Key Takeaways
- Feelings drive actions. Nobody has ever felt defeated and then taken big, strategic action. Defeat produces quitting or frantic busywork.
- The lens distorts everything. With that thought running, your business, body, home, and website all look broken. Most of them just needed more time.
- Check the source of the target. If you did not set the deadline from a plan and self-confidence, you are not behind.
- Awareness first. Catch the thought, label it, and stop rearranging your external life to fix an internal problem.
FAQ
Q: What is success expectancy? A: Expecting you should already have it. That expectation creates frustration, and frustration drives the actions that keep you stuck.
Q: Isn't expecting success the point? A: Believing you are capable opens you up. Being frustrated it has not happened yet shuts you down. Those are two different thoughts.
Q: Why does "I Should Be Further Along" feel like a fact? A: Repetition. You said it enough times that it stopped sounding like an opinion.
Q: What do I think instead? A: "I'm giving this all the time it takes."
Resources Mentioned
- Free masterclass, October 5th: H
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