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5 min readStart and End with Kindness
On December 22nd, Chris Swell decided to start getting back into shape. Not on January 1st, which would have been the obvious marker, but on a random Tuesday in late December, because that was the day she finally felt motivated and physically able to move again after a period of health struggles. This small decision became the living example of the episode's central argument: kindness — particularly toward yourself — matters more than arbitrary dates, external pressure, or the stories we tell ourselves about what we "should" be doing and when.
The Judgment Trap
Swell opens by acknowledging that judgment is nearly as natural as breathing. It serves a purpose — it helps us see who we are and who we want to be, and it can motivate us. But it becomes harmful when we compare ourselves to others without knowing all the factors that go into their situation, and especially when that lack of kindness is directed inward. She observes that the pandemic seems to have intensified this dynamic, producing either extraordinary kindness or a striking lack of compassion, particularly among strangers. Her insight is that when people exude a lack of compassion outward, there is usually a lack of compassion inward as well — it's a signal that something is off internally.
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What you'll learn
- 1 (00:38) **Why Kindness Matters Now (and Always)** - Host Chris Swell introduces the episode’s core message: ending and beginning with kindness, starting with yourself, especially during the year-end period of reflection and New Year’s resolutions.
- 2 (02:18) **Personal Example: Starting Before the “Perfect” Date** - Chris shares her own recent health journey to illustrate that you don’t need a calendar marker to begin—you can start when you feel ready, with kindness.
- 3 (04:28) **The Link Between Inner and Outer Compassion** - Chris connects the lack of kindness we show ourselves to a broader societal lack of compassion, especially post-pandemic.
- 4 (06:49) **Misreading Others: Shyness vs. Snobbery** - A concrete example of how we misjudge people because we don’t know their internal experience, and how kindness requires us to question our assumptions.
- 5 (08:25) **How Self-Judgment Fuels Loneliness** - The host explains that harsh self-criticism can lead to social withdrawal, which deepens feelings of loneliness even in groups.
- 6 (09:19) **The Year-End Trap: Panic and Self-Criticism** - Chris zeroes in on the Q4 pressure to achieve goals and the harmful ways we respond when we fall short.
- 7 (11:58) **The Power of a No-Judgment Year Review** - Chris encourages listeners to reflect on the past year with compassion, not judgment, as a form of self-kindness and a tool for better planning.
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Show Notes
It's a new year! But even when it's not, today's message is important.
Be kind.
When you end something - a year, a goal, a job, or project, or even a relationship - look at it and release (if needed) with kindness. When you begin something new, start it with kindness. Know your whys, review, evaluate, learn, and plan. Even in failure, bring in a lens of compassion and you'll feel so much better and even clearer about it. We judge, we all do! But when you introduce kindness into your judgment, everything can change in the best ways. Give it a try and see. You'll feel a little bit better!
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Chris Swail
Life Coach & Health Coach (CHC)
A Little Bit Better;
IG @chris.swail
web www.alittlebitbetter.ca
The Well Society
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I help people step into the person they want to be and the life they want to live!
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