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5 min readWhen psychotherapist Nero Feliciano asks clients what their lives look like, she hears about anxiety, stress, and depletion. People feel like they are on a hamster wheel, never able to catch up. And the things that matter most to them often have no place in their daily schedule. Feliciano, a licensed clinical social worker and author of This Book Won’t Make You Happy, argues that this is partly because our culture has normalized constant access and constant communication, leaving very little time for the brain to rest. The result is an unsettled feeling that has become the norm.
The Time Audit: Aligning Your Schedule with Your Values
The core diagnostic tool Feliciano recommends is a time audit. She describes a moment in her own life when she realized she could not remember the last time she had spent 45 minutes listening to one of her own children. That day, she made two lists. First, she listed the aspects of her life and the people most important to her, along with the things that brought her joy. Then she did a time inventory: where was her time actually going day to day? The two lists were misaligned. She was spending significant time on social media and scrolling, activities that did not appear on her list of priorities.
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What you'll learn
- 1 (00:02) **The Core Problem: Overwhelm and Depletion** - Nero Feliciano explains why people feel like they're on a hamster wheel and how constant digital access prevents cognitive rest.
- 2 (02:42) **Why "Too Much" Is Personal** - The threshold for doing too much varies by life stage, health, and family needs, using Nero's own experience as an example.
- 3 (04:02) **Takeaway One: The Time Audit Exercise** - Nero describes the core exercise: align your schedule with your values by making two lists.
- 4 (08:41) **Cutting Back vs. Adding** - When time is the issue, you usually have to cut something out to make room for what matters, which often requires setting boundaries.
- 5 (10:38) **Sacrifice Over Compromise** - Nero offers a relationship strategy for when priorities clash: lean toward sacrifice rather than compromise, as long as it's reciprocal.
- 6 (13:53) **Takeaway Two: How to Cut Back** - Practical steps for eliminating time wasters, including setting boundaries with yourself and others.
- 7 (14:33) **Existing in the Open Space** - How to handle the time you free up after cutting something out, and the challenge of resisting the urge to fill it immediately.
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