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5 min readSimone Stolzoff, author of How to Not Know, describes uncertainty as an unavoidable feature of decisions and daily life rather than a problem to eliminate. He frames trust and forward movement as an active engagement with what cannot be fully known, using his own experience choosing between a journalism role and a design-firm position as an example of the anxiety that arises when people search for certainty that future outcomes cannot provide.
Distinguishing types of uncertainty
Stolzoff separates acute uncertainty, which has a clear resolution date, from ambient uncertainty, which involves open-ended questions about careers, technology, climate, or social stability. Research he cites shows that the waiting period itself often produces more distress than the eventual outcome. In one study, participants anticipating a possible electric shock reported higher stress when the probability was fifty percent than when it was certain. The same pattern appeared among breast-cancer patients awaiting biopsy results. This distinction matters because strategies that work for one form of uncertainty do not automatically apply to the other.
Handling acute uncertainty
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What you'll learn
- 1 (00:24) **Value of uncertainty** - Simone explains trust as active engagement with the unknown and the need for faith plus action
- 2 (02:58) **Guest background and personal relationship with certainty** - Simone describes himself as a natural doubter who wrote the book he needed
- 3 (03:38) **IDEO job decision story** - How Simone faced two attractive but incompatible paths and the resulting anxiety
- 4 (04:49) **Nature of hard decisions** - Hard choices are difficult because of inherent trade-offs, not lack of information
- 5 (06:53) **Acute vs ambient uncertainty** - Distinction between time-limited unknowns and ongoing background uncertainty
- 6 (07:16) **Research on acute uncertainty discomfort** - Studies showing waiting periods are often more stressful than bad outcomes
- 7 (08:25) **Handling acute uncertainty** - Practical steps: control what you can, create contingency plans, regulate nervous system
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Show Notes
I was looking for certainty when there was no certainty to be found. If Simone’s words resonate with you, then this episode is for YOU. Simone Stolzoff is a journalist who writes about the uncertainty of life. In his conversation with Chris, he observes why people are becoming less tolerant of uncertainty, the harm caused when we take AI output as definitive answers, and what you can do to expand your capacity to hold uncertainty in your life.
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- Follow Simone Stolzoff on Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok, and at simonestolzoff.com/
- Buy Simone's books How to Not Know and The Good Enough Job
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