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5 min readDr. Sarita Lyons did not set out to write a book about mother wounds. The idea came to her during a Q&A session at the Glory Conference, when a young woman asked how to honor a mother when the relationship is difficult. Lyons’s own mother was still alive at the time, and their relationship was good. The book, Honor Thy Mother, was not born from her personal pain but from a sense of divine assignment. “To be a peacemaker,” she says, “means you also not only care about resolving conflict that you’re involved in, but that you care about the conflict and the brokenness that has nothing to do with you.” That distinction — writing about healing for others when you do not personally need it — frames the entire conversation, which is less about blame and more about learning how to relate to a real, flawed parent without losing yourself.
What Honor Actually Means (and What It Does Not)
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What you'll learn
- 1 (04:04) **Why This Book Was Hard to Write** - Dr. Sarita Lyons explains the challenge of writing about mother wounds for a wide audience, from the meddling mother to the murdering mother.
- 2 (06:55) **Peacemaking vs. Keeping Peace** - Dr. Lyons introduces a key distinction from her book: Jesus calls us to *make* peace, not fake or keep it.
- 3 (09:01) **Dr. Lyons’ Own Mother Wound** - She shares her personal struggle: she buried her mother in 2024 and had to interrogate her own childhood to write authentically.
- 4 (16:18) **Defining Honor Biblically** - A breakdown of Exodus 20:12: honor means to “give weight” or reverence, and it’s the only commandment with a promise.
- 5 (22:05) **How to Honor an Unnurturing Mother** - Practical guidance for those who didn’t receive the nurturing they needed.
- 6 (26:57) **Gratitude Without Minimizing the Pain** - Both things can be true: she sacrificed, but she never said “I love you” or “I’m proud of you.”
- 7 (31:09) **How Mother Wounds Show Up in Marriage** - Dr. Lyons explains how men’s mother wounds affect their relationships with their wives.
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Show Notes
We hear a lot about people experiencing “father wounds” but what about those who carry heartache, anger or sorrow because of a wounding mother?
When Dr. Sarita Lyons joined Jackie for the Glory Conference in 2023, an attendee asked about navigating difficult relationships with mothers. Feeling burdened by the Holy Spirit after that interaction and many conversations that followed it, Dr. Sarita has written a book to help people grieve honestly and heal deeply.
Jackie, Preston and Dr. Sarita Lyons discuss what it means to honor your mother while still acknowledging the ways you’ve been hurt. They explore the difference between godly sorrow and condemnation, what it looks like to hold truth and grace together, and how the Gospel offers hope for wholeness.
Check out “Honor Thy Mother: How to Grieve, Heal, and Make Peace with Your Mother Wounds” – www.saritalyons.com/honor-thy-mother-book
Connect with Dr. Sarita Lyons
www.instagram.com/drsaritalyons
Honor Thy Mother Conference in October – saritalyons.com/honorthymotherconference
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