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5 min readYour Crush Is Dating Your Friend. What Do You Do?
A 28-year-old man moved to a new city, built a fulfilling friend group, and developed a crush on a woman in it. He never made a move because he didn't want to disrupt the group dynamics. Then he introduced her to another male friend at a party. They hit it off. Now they're on their first date, and he's watching it happen, signing his email "crushed and cucked."
The Friend Zone Trap
Jordana and Jared immediately zeroed in on the contradiction in the email's tone. The writer described himself as thoughtful and earnest, hoping his friends find love—then signed off with a term that suggests resentment. As Jordana put it: "When you decide I'm gonna be a friend to this girl or guy or anyone that I want to be with that I really have developed a crush for, you turn into a liar."
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What you'll learn
- 1 Timestamped Outline
- 2 (22:42) **Crush Dating Your Friend - Reader Email** - A 28-year-old single guy writes in about his crush dating a friend he introduced her to, asking how to survive watching it happen
- 3 (32:59) **Advice for the Crushed Friend** - Jordana and Jared offer practical steps for moving forward
- 4 (38:04) **Friend Zone Dynamics - Personal Experiences** - Jordana and Jared reflect on their own experiences with unrequited crushes in friend groups
- 5 (47:04) **"Picky or Picky" - Comedy Show ick** - A woman writes in about her boyfriend getting upset after being roasted by a comedian during crowd work, giving her the ick
- 6 (53:18) **Jared's Comedian Perspective** - Jared explains why the woman should be more understanding of her boyfriend's reaction
- 7 (59:52) **In-Law Boundaries - Reader Email** - A pregnant 30-year-old woman writes about her in-laws' rigid expectations for family celebrations and her husband's defensiveness
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Show Notes
Jordana and Jared discuss what to do when your friend starts dating your crush, whether the way you handle getting roasted at a comedy show is an ick, and how to handle overbearing in-laws. They also talk summer dating, waiting for your partner at the airport, and using AI to write a prenup. Also Jared has a new Netflix special, The Family Plan, coming September 1! Add to your queue today!
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