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5 min read"Four men who are partnered have offered me their sperm. To be clear, I didn't ask. They just offered. Their partners were not present." That email lands on the desk of Jordana Abraham and Jared Freid, co-hosts of the dating podcast U Up?, and it kicks off the most substantive conversation of the episode. But before they get there, they warm up with a listener question about a much smaller kind of relationship residue: what happens to the vibrator after a breakup?
The Petty or Prudent Vibrator Question
A listener writes in after a breakup of four and a half years. Her ex returned all her clothes and belongings, but never gave back the vibrator he bought her for Valentine's Day. Would it have been petty to ask for it back? The hosts break it down with a key distinction: who dumped whom.
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What you'll learn
- 1 (00:32) **Episode Introduction and Banter** - Jordana and Jared open the show, discuss Jared's upcoming Netflix special, and share a story about being filmed at a fitness class.
- 2 (15:42) **Petty or Prudent: The Missing Vibrator** - A listener asks if it was petty to ask her ex-boyfriend for the vibrator he bought her after he returned all her other belongings post-breakup.
- 3 (24:17) **Breakup Box Analysis and Dating Prenups** - The hosts discuss the contents of breakup boxes, the meaning of items left in or out, and fantasize about a "dating prenup" to protect against wasted time.
- 4 (26:28) **The Cost of Silence and Material Goods** - The conversation turns to what it would cost for a dumper to buy the dumpee's silence on a podcast or stage, and who gets the couch in a breakup.
- 5 (35:38) **Main Email: Sperm Donation Offers from Married Friends** - A single elder millennial woman writes in about four partnered male friends who have offered her their sperm to have a child on her own.
- 6 (40:14) **Analyzing the Men's Motivations** - The hosts dig deeper into why these men offered their sperm and how their partners would likely react.
- 7 (47:10) **Hypothetical: Would You Donate to a Sibling?** - The hosts pivot to a hypothetical about donating sperm to a family member, specifically Jared's brother Harry.
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Show Notes
It’s a Friday Feels episode and J&J are questioning, "would you pay $5,000 to break up with someone"? The two then get into listener questions and discuss whether it’s petty or prudent to ask for your shared spicy toy back after a breakup. They also read a question from a single woman who is searching for a sperm donor to have a child and was surprised when her married male friends offered their own – without consulting their partners!?!
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