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5 min read"My Mother-in-Law Stalks My Husband's Ex and Keeps Comparing Me to Her"
On this episode of U Up?, hosts Jordana Abraham and Jared Fried tackle listener emails about relationship dynamics, friendship boundaries, and the strange ways exes linger in current relationships. The throughline is about navigating discomfort when other people's behavior—whether a mother-in-law's fixation on an ex, a friend's insistence on couples-only hangouts, or a partner's nostalgic keepsake—makes you question what's normal and what's worth addressing.
When a Compliment About You Comes at Someone Else's Expense
A 29-year-old woman writes that her husband's mother and her best friend recently found a video of his ex-girlfriend on Instagram, called him specifically to laugh about it, and told him how glad they are he ended up with the listener instead. The listener has been with her husband for over three years, and the ex was the last woman he dated before her—a contentious one-year relationship that ended cleanly.
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What you'll learn
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- 2 (00:32) **Show Open & Banter** - Jordana and Jared discuss recording with Esther Perel and the weaponization of therapy language online
- 3 (06:40) **Are You Up to Date: Hinge Disables Screenshots** - The hosts analyze Hinge's new policy blocking screenshotting of profiles
- 4 (24:34) **A Man Announces Divorce with an FAQ** - The hosts react to a man posting a structured Q&A about his divorce on Instagram
- 5 (36:33) **Email: Couples-Only Hangouts Excluding Single Friends** - A 29-year-old woman asks whether couples-only group events are appropriate when single friends feel left out
- 6 (45:55) **Petty or Prudent: Ex-Boyfriend Brings New Baby to Her Clinic** - A pediatric nurse practitioner's ex-boyfriend specifically requested her to do his new baby's checkup
- 7 (54:46) **Email: Mother-in-Law Stalks Husband's Ex on Social Media** - A wife is bothered that her mother-in-law and her friend called her husband to make fun of his ex's Instagram video
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Show Notes
This week, J&J learn that Hinge is banning screenshots, and they question whether this is good for dating or helps cheaters get away with it! They Jordana and Jared see a man who posted his divorce announcement with a thoughtful, brief FAQ and discuss whether all breakups should have posts like these. They then discuss if it’s weird to keep a list of everyone you’ve slept with, whether single friends should be invited to couples nights, and if it’s petty to refuse to treat your ex’s new baby. Lastly, they discuss being compared to an ex by your husband’s family and how many football leagues are too many to be apart of?!
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