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5 min readYou are listening to a summary of the U Up? episode “I’m ICKed Out Over My Boyfriend Fangirling Over a Tennis Player,” recorded on September 17, 2024. Hosts Jordana Abraham and Jared Freid cover listener emails on plus-one etiquette at weddings, a boyfriend’s obsessive fandom of a female tennis pro, early dating anxiety around texting, and a series of red-flag-or-dealbreaker scenarios. The throughline is a tension between individual feelings and the reality of how partners actually behave—the hosts push past surface-level complaints to diagnose the deeper dynamics at play.
The Plus-One Problem: Guest Experience vs. Unspoken Judgments
A bride-to-be writes in because she wants to give her two single female friends a plus-one to her wedding, but her fiancé objects. She specifies that the plus-one could be a date, a close friend, or a sister—anyone who makes the guest comfortable. The fiancé insists it must be a romantic date or nothing.
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What you'll learn
- 1 (00:16) **Birthday Greetings and Baby Cage Banter** - Hosts Jordana and Jared open with birthday wishes and a discussion about Jordana’s husband Mike watching their twins alone for the first time.
- 2 (07:22) **Email #1: The Wedding Plus-One Debate** - A bride-to-be disagrees with her fiancé about giving single female friends an open plus-one (date, friend, or family member) versus only a date.
- 3 (23:11) **Icky or Picky: Boyfriend Fangirling Over a Tennis Player** - A woman is upset that her boyfriend texted her multiple times about a female pro tennis player he saw practicing, even finding her Instagram, which the girlfriend finds disrespectful.
- 4 (41:39) **Email #2: Anxious About Texting Frequency in Early Dating** - A 29-year-old woman is dating a man who texts every few days and says he isn't a big texter, leaving her anxious and unsure whether to bring it up.
- 5 (50:22) **Red Flag or Deal Breaker: The Salsa Dancer** - A man is dating a woman who attends salsa dance classes five to six nights a week and structures dates around her classes.
- 6 (57:15) **Red Flag or Deal Breaker: The Co-Worker Affair Partner** - A 27-year-old woman's 40-year-old boyfriend is still friends with the female co-worker he cheated on his ex-wife with, after initially lying about the relationship.
- 7 (67:42) **Red Flag or Deal Breaker: "Isn't It Beautiful?"** - A man shares a story about a past girlfriend who, on their second date, announced she had slept with everyone else at the table.
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Show Notes
It’s Jordana’s birthday, Happy Birthday, Jordana! J&J debate wedding plus-ones, jealous partners, and how much texting is too much when you’re dating. They also dive into a text thread discussion of a boyfriend fangirling over a professional tennis player and his girlfriend is getting the ICK! They then discuss if it's a red flag for a woman who spends five nights a week at salsa class, and whether you should stay friends with someone you cheated with!
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