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5 min read"How Long Should Your Husband Wait to Remarry After You Die?"
On a recent episode of U Up?, co-hosts Jordana Abraham and Jared Freid took a listener email and turned it into an unexpectedly revealing conversation about marriage, insecurity, and the secret contingency plans married men apparently keep in their back pockets. The episode's throughline is the gap between how we imagine our partners would handle our absence and the far more practical (and sometimes unsettling) reality they've already mapped out.
The Death Conversation That Every Married Couple Should (Maybe) Have
Jordana recounted a conversation she had with her husband Mike about what would happen if she died. She framed it as a lighthearted hypothetical: "Isn't it crazy? Like if I died, this would just be like you guys all the time." Mike's response was not the expected "I couldn't imagine life without you." Instead, he immediately started rattling off a detailed plan: sell the house, downsize, use life insurance money for childcare, and rely less on his parents.
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What you'll learn
- 1 (00:00) **Episode Open & Jared’s Commute Disaster** - Jared recounts his failed attempt to get into the studio, including a train delay and a canceled train, leading to him recording remotely.
- 2 (09:00) **Jared’s Netflix Special "The Family Plan"** - Jared passionately promotes his new stand-up special, explaining its themes of family, empathy, and fighting, and asks listeners to watch and support it.
- 3 (13:22) **Jared Meets Emily’s Friend Group** - Jared describes the awkwardness and social pressure of being introduced to his girlfriend’s long-established friend group as a 41-year-old newcomer.
- 4 (19:11) **The "Gay Alone Abroad" Debate** - A conversation about solo travel turns awkward when Jared comments that being a gay man abroad alone is different from being a straight man abroad alone.
- 5 (24:59) **The Buffalo Dip Incident** - Jared tells a story about a gross social faux pas committed by a friend-of-a-friend at the bar, involving a spoon and communal food.
- 6 (29:05) **Jordana’s "After I Die" Fight with Mike** - Jordana reveals a recurring argument she has with her husband Mike about his detailed, practical plan for life after her death, which she finds both hilarious and infuriating.
- 7 (35:50) **Jared’s Perfect "Widower" Script** - Jared offers a masterclass on how a husband should talk to his wife about her hypothetical death, crafting a safe, non-aspirational narrative.
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Show Notes
Jared shares about meeting his girlfriend’s friends, how he got questioned about his phone use, and how being in a relationship means meeting the friend group! Then J&J discuss how men really feel about losing a partner, how they would go about life after a partner’s death, how often your spouse should visit your grave, and whether remarrying too soon should get you written out of the will. They also discuss a husband lying about buying his ex a gift, stalking an ex’s IG stories, Disney Adult red flags, asking someone if they had a good time on a date, and whether shutting off your apartment’s electricity is a red flag or a deal breaker.
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