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5 min read"I knew this guy was a douche when he said that unprompted: 'I'm more into women's soccer.'" That moment made Jordana gasp. It was the first of several in an email exchange that became the episode's centerpiece—a case study in how a simple dating lull can spiral into a man's self-righteous meltdown.
The Women's Soccer Pick-Me and the Two-Week Gap
A 35-year-old woman matched with a 34-year-old man on Bumble. Their conversation was friendly enough, and he asked her out for coffee. But the earliest they could meet was two weeks out. They exchanged numbers, texted for a day, and then the conversation naturally fizzled. He was technically the last to message; she didn't think much of it.
The day before the scheduled date, she canceled—politely. She wrote that she'd lost interest without more interaction and had made other plans. She even left room for the possibility that something awful had happened to him.
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What you'll learn
- 1 (00:02) **Sponsor Intro & Banter** - LinkedIn Hiring Pro ad, followed by Jordana and Jared discussing her tough week with her nanny on vacation.
- 2 (17:47) **Reader Email: The "Women's Soccer" Pick-Me** - A woman's date cancels via a long, self-righteous text after a texting lull, revealing himself as a performative "male pick-me."
- 3 (30:47) **Analyzing the "I Prefer to Get to Know Someone in Person" Defense** - The hosts argue this phrase is a losing argument that signals the other person is not negotiating in good faith.
- 4 (36:00) **Answering the Emailer's Questions** - The hosts give blunt, direct answers on pre-date texting expectations and who should cancel.
- 5 (40:47) **Petty or Prudent: Co-Ed Bachelor/Bachelorette Party** - A voicemail asks if it's petty for a husband to refuse a co-ed bachelor/bachelorette trip where significant others aren't invited.
- 6 (53:19) **Reader Email: The "Good Luck Charm" from an Ex** - A woman asks if it's a faux pas to wear a gift from an ex, after seeing her ex-boyfriend still wearing a bracelet she gave him years later.
- 7 (58:55) **Breakup Context & Male Vanity** - The hosts explain why the bracelet's origin matters less to the man than its aesthetic value, and why the dumper vs. dumpee dynamic changes things.
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Show Notes
Jordana and Jared discuss a dating app match who canceled a first date after there was a lull in texting and then sent practically a full dissertation explaining his communication style as if his date was in the wrong for not knowing. J&J also answer whether wearing an ex’s gift years later means you’re still thinking about them, if a co-ed bachelor party where partners aren’t invited is petty, and whether a filthy apartment is an instant deal breaker! Also Jared shares how he shares his upgrade on a flight with his girlfriend instead of taking it for himself – growth!!
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