This Podcast Will Kill You
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Special Episode: Robert Kolker & The Vanishing Family

October 6, 2026

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The Vanishing Family: What Frontotemporal Dementia Reveals About Identity, Inheritance, and the Limits of Knowing

Frontotemporal dementia (FTD) is not like other dementias. Instead of stealing memory first, it erodes personality—making people compulsive, apathetic, or unrecognizable to those who love them. And in its inherited form, a single genetic test can tell you with 50 percent certainty whether you will develop it in middle age. Journalist Robert Kolker, author of The Vanishing Family: Love, Fate, and the Quest to End Dementia, spent four years with one family of nine siblings confronting exactly this question. What he found is not just a story about a rare disease, but a window into how all of us might one day face the same choice.

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What you'll learn

  • 1 (02:35) **Episode Introduction & Book Context** - Aaron Welsh introduces the TPWKY book club series and Robert Kolker’s book, *The Vanishing Family*.
  • 2 (07:20) **How Kolker Connected with the Family** - Kolker explains how a family member contacted him after reading his book on schizophrenia.
  • 3 (09:05) **Defining Frontotemporal Dementia (FTD)** - Kolker distinguishes FTD from Alzheimer’s and explains its core mechanism and prevalence.
  • 4 (11:45) **Early Warning Signs: The Matriarch Jean** - Kolker describes the earliest, misattributed symptoms in the family’s mother, Jean, in the 1980s.
  • 5 (13:21) **The Genetics of FTD: The 50/50 Coin Flip** - Kolker clarifies the heritability pattern of inherited FTD and the agonizing choice to test.
  • 6 (15:40) **Historical Perception of Dementia** - A brief look at how dementia was viewed before the modern era of neuroscience.
  • 7 (20:23) **The Phineas Gage Case Study** - Kolker uses the classic story of Phineas Gage to illustrate the link between the brain’s frontal lobe and personality.

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Show Notes

A diagnosis of dementia of any kind is devastating. For those with the hereditary form of frontotemporal dementia (FTD), it could mean an entire family is destined for the same fate. In this week’s TPWKY book club episode, award-winning author Robert Kolker paints an intimate portrait of one such family in The Vanishing Family: Love, Fate, and the Quest to End Dementia. Through Kolker’s compassionate and incisive writing, readers learn about FTD alongside this family and gain a unique insight into the painful and complex decisions the siblings face. Kolker also presents a scoping view of the history and possible future of dementia research, one that may allow fate to be rewritten. Tune in for all this and more.

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