Get Out. | Ask Nick

September 28, 2026

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Get Out. | Ask Nick

A 29-year-old woman named Charlie called in to ask whether her fiancé would ever change or whether she should walk away. She described him as "very reactive" when angry and said she felt unsafe. Nick asked for specifics: what exactly did she want him to change? She said calming down, not taking everything so seriously, and slowing down on the obsessive phone calls—he called her about 50 times a day and blew up her phone. She admitted her anxiety spikes around him. Nick told her that feeling unsafe is enough to question a relationship, regardless of whether the other person is technically doing something wrong.

The story that changed everything

Charlie started to tell a story about her birthday, prefacing it with "I'm not perfect either." Her fiancé had made plans for her, but a work party came up on her birthday. She wanted to go, and he got upset, asking if a specific male coworker would be there. She said she didn't know. The coworker was there and gave her flowers with a note. She brought them home. Her fiancé broke into her house, went through every room, and searched through her belongings. He denied it for months until she got access to her Ring camera footage and saw him going in and out six times.

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What you'll learn

1 Get Out. | Ask Nick — The Viall Files
2 (02:13) **Caller 1: Charlie, 29 — Unsafe Engagement After Eight Months** - Charlie describes a fiancé who is reactive, possessive, and makes her feel unsafe, asking if he will change or if she should leave.
3 (07:06) **The Birthday Incident — Fiancé Broke Into Her Home** - Charlie shares a story that escalates the situation dramatically, revealing far more dangerous behavior.
4 (12:26) **Nick's Verdict: This Is Dangerous, Not Just Dysfunctional** - Nick argues the fiancé feels entitled to illegal behavior because of Charlie's mistake, and this is not a salvageable relationship.
5 (14:08) **Attempted Exits and a Family That Won't Help** - Charlie has tried to leave but the fiancé shows up at her house and cries publicly; her family knows the situation but her mother still likes him.
6 (17:54) **The Restraining Order Barrier — "I'm Just So Busy With Work"** - Charlie hesitates to file a restraining order, citing lack of time; Nick insists she must make it a priority.
7 (23:05) **Caller 2: Carly, 27 — Should I Tell My Best Friend Her Fiancé Masturbated in Front of Me?** - Carly witnessed her best friend's fiancé masturbating to porn while she was sleeping in the same room, and she has a history of his inappropriate behavior toward her.

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Show Notes

Welcome back to The Viall Files: Ask Nick edition!

Our first caller decides if she should wait for her fiance to change or leave. Our second caller seeks advice on how to tell her best friend that her fiance was inappropriate with her at their engagement party. Our third caller asks how to date after divorce.

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