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5 min readAsk Nick: He Wants To Meet Me In The Woods
Nick Viall takes three calls in this episode, each circling a different version of the same problem: women who are over-functioning in relationships that haven't yet earned that investment. The through-line is about slowing down, setting boundaries, and letting people prove themselves before you give them the full girlfriend experience.
The Camping Trip and the Local Legend
Brooke, 31, is talking to two men. Guy A is a wildland firefighter she's been on a few dates with who is currently away on assignment. Guy B is a 41-year-old wildlife conservation figure in her small town, recommended by coworkers, who she's been having long phone calls with for three weeks. She hasn't met Guy B in person yet, and their first date is planned as a weekend camping trip — a three-hour drive each way.
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What you'll learn
- 1 (04:17) **Brooke's Dilemma: Guy A vs. Guy B** - 31-year-old Brooke is deciding between two men she's getting to know: a wildland firefighter (Guy A) she's been on a few dates with, and a well-known local conservationist (Guy B) she hasn't met yet.
- 2 (06:49) **The "Job Interview" vs. "Adventure" Mindset** - Nick reframes Brooke's anxiety about the upcoming meeting with Guy B, arguing she is putting too much pressure on the situation.
- 3 (12:09) **The Problem of Committing to a Weekend** - Brooke reveals the first date with Guy B is a weekend camping trip, and she has a history of feeling trapped in similar situations.
- 4 (21:44) **The "Measuring Stick" Conversation** - Nick gives Brooke a script for a vulnerable pre-date conversation with Guy B to test his character.
- 5 (28:00) **Navigating Sex and Intentionality** - The conversation turns to how to manage physical intimacy with both men, especially in light of Guy B's stated desire to be "intentional."
- 6 (37:42) **Sarah's Situationship Pattern** - 38-year-old Sarah calls in because she "keep[s] getting stuck in situationships" and has not had a boyfriend since high school.
- 7 (45:29) **The "Checkbox" Dating Approach** - Nick deconstructs Sarah's strategy of waiting until the third date for sex and using the "I don't want a situationship" boundary as a permission slip.
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Show Notes
Welcome back to The Viall Files: Ask Nick edition!
Our first caller is stuck between two different men. Our second caller is 38 and in a situationship. And, our third caller's partner thinks her friend is treating her like her therapist
"Hope this person doesn't kill me."
ARE YOU A MESS BECAUSE OF YOUR SITUATIONSHIP? OR JUST IN GENERAL?
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Timestamps:
02:33 - Intro
02:46 - Caller One
33:22 - Caller Two
55:51 - Caller Three
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