Honest Postpartum Q&A: The Roommate Stage & Baby #4

September 23, 2026

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Honest Postpartum Q&A: The Roommate Stage & Baby #4

Matt and Abby open this episode with a confession that lands somewhere between honest and uncomfortable: "I feel like we're mostly roommates postpartum." Abby says it first, then clarifies she doesn't mean it as a complaint — it's just the reality of the first six weeks with a newborn. "It's all utility," she explains. The episode, framed as an honest postpartum Q&A drawn from listener questions on Instagram, covers everything from placenta pills to pelvic floor issues to whether they're planning a fourth child. But the throughline is something more specific: how the third postpartum experience differs from the first two, and what that reveals about recovery, marriage, and the slow process of becoming a family of five.

The Third Time Around: Hormones, Recovery, and Perspective

Abby says the biggest difference this time is hormonal. "Hormonally, I feel way better. Night and day difference." She offers several possible explanations: the village they now have, the placenta encapsulation she tried for the first time, and sheer luck. Matt confirms he's noticed the change — "It's rare that you've had hard nights. You can't even compare this time around to the past two."

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1 Honest Postpartum Q&A: The Roommate Stage & Baby #4
2 (00:20) **Are You Planning Baby Number Four?** - Matt and Abby tease the final question while acknowledging they're currently in a "roommate stage" postpartum
3 (01:24) **Introducing the Honest Postpartum Q&A** - The couple explains they'll be answering listener-submitted questions about their postpartum experience
4 (04:34) **Vet Pricing vs. Human Healthcare Frustration** - A rant about how veterinary care is simpler and more transparent than the human medical billing system
5 (08:25) **Family Visit & Dad's Chipotle Mishap** - Abby's parents visited and helped around the house, leading to a funny catering pickup story
6 (15:42) **Is Fisher a Chill Baby?** - Comparing newborn Fisher's temperament to their previous babies
7 (19:02) **Transition to Three Boys** - How the family is adjusting from two to three children, all boys

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Show Notes

One month postpartum and we’re answering your questions! We’re talking recovery, breastfeeding, adjusting to life with three kids, marriage in the newborn stage, navigating life after loss, and the question everyone keeps asking… are we having baby #4? Mascara Restock!: biswell-beauty.com Betterhelp: Visit https://betterhelp.com/unplannedpodcast #ad Upwork: Visit https://upwork.com right now and post your job for free to connect with top talent ready to help your business grow. Yoto: Head to https://yotoplay.com and use code UNPLANNED to save 10% off all eligible items. Follow The Unplanned Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/unplanned__podcast/ https://www.tiktok.com/@unplanned_podcast Listen to the pod on Spotify/ Apple Podcasts: https://open.spotify.com/show/1ToDA4ufQuWuEgMq07zN6t https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unplanned-podcast/id1669604504 Follow Matt & Abby: Abby's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/abbyelizabethoward/ Matt's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/_matt_howard_/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@matt_and_abby Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/mattandabb YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@MattandAbby Chapters: 01:24 - Life Update 05:44 - Medical bill for miscarriage 08:08 - Parents visit 11:07 - Auggie's Birthday Party 15:26 - Q&A 15:29 - Is Fischer a chill dude? 17:07 - How'd you come up with the name? 18:49 - Transition to 3 boys 22:09 - Adjustment for older boys? 25:02 - Sleep deprivation 26:33 - Compare postpartum experiences 30:05 - working out during pregnancy 35:20 - Pelvic floor issues 36:43 - Learning to love your body postpartum 39:53 - VBAC vs. C-Section? 42:04 - Shoulder dystocia 44:35 - Doula 47:09 - Postpartum anxiety? 48:57 - Rainbow Baby 50:40 - Losing friends 52:23 - Breast pump 56:31 - Night feeds 1:00:45 - Back to work 1:02:27 - Biswell Beauty 1:09:42 - Roommate phase 1:13:46 - Fav song to sing to Fischer? 1:14:47 - Placenta pills 1:15:52 - Breastfeeding 1:17:07 - Feeding schedule 1:20:53 - Baby number 4?

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