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Don’t Let Shame Keep You Stuck

October 22, 2026

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5 min read

A caller named Ian asks whether he and his fiancée can substitute their time as a form of tithing while they pay off $65,000 in student loan debt. George Campbell and Rachel Cruz push back gently but firmly. The word "tithe" literally means 10% of income, and swapping in volunteer hours changes the definition. More importantly, they argue, giving during a season of sacrifice builds a habit of generosity that will stick when money is no longer tight. Rachel warns against the lie that "if I just had more money, I would give" — the issue is usually a heart posture, not a bank account problem. George cites Malachi 3:10 ("Test me in this") but clarifies that blessing doesn't have to mean material wealth. Their bottom line: don't cut giving first, even if the math says you'd be out of debt faster without it.

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What you'll learn

  • 1 (00:40) **Tithing vs. Debt Payoff** - Ian asks if he can substitute his time for a monetary tithe to accelerate his student loan repayment.
  • 2 (06:17) **Fixed Annuity vs. Growth Stock Fund** - Donnie considers moving $150,000 from a growth stock mutual fund into a fixed 5.7% return product.
  • 3 (10:10) **Accepting a Gift vs. Waiting for Loan Forgiveness** - Spencer's sister-in-law offers $73,000 to pay off his wife's student loans, but they consider waiting for potential public service loan forgiveness.
  • 4 (15:48) **Saving for a Future House** - Jessica, a military family member with no current housing costs, asks how to save for a future home purchase in six years.
  • 5 (22:12) **Keeping the House After a Divorce** - Gretchen is divorced and wants to keep her house with a loan from her boss and his wife, who would take half the future sale profits.
  • 6 (32:19) **Selling Land: Bulk vs. Parceling** - Tony and his wife disagree on whether to sell an 80-acre parcel in bulk or divide it and sell it piece by piece.
  • 7 (43:15) **Combining Finances for Debt Freedom** - Jade and her husband keep their finances separate, leaving her with $60k in debt and little margin, while he has a plan for his own debt.

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George Kamel and Rachel Cruze answer your questions and discuss:

  • “My sister-in-law is gifting us $73,000 to pay off my wife's student loans. Should we wait to see if her student loans get forgiven first?”
  • “My financial advisor wants me to take out a loan for my living expenses instead of drawing on my investments. Is he right?”
  • “My job is making me go into debt every month after my sales income dried up. What should I do?”
  • “I have $60,000 of credit card debt. How do I pay this off?”
  • “My aunt offered to pay off my car debt. Should I accept?”


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