My Dad And I Haven’t Spoken In 3 Years, Now He Wants Money

May 14, 2026

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A caller in his forties has not spoken to his father in three years. Now, after a family legal battle over his grandmother’s estate, the father wants the caller to reimburse him for the $60,000 he spent contesting the will. The caller is expecting an inheritance of $300,000 to $500,000. The father is not asking him directly. Instead, he is using the caller’s mother as a messenger to pressure him into paying. The caller also carries old resentment: his father promised to pay for his master’s degree but never did, leaving him to pay off $150,000 in student loans on his own.

The episode’s central question is whether the caller is obligated to pay his father back. The host’s answer is clear: no. But the real substance of the conversation is not about the money. It is about the pattern of behavior and the emotional cost of unresolved family conflict.

The problem with playing telephone

The host immediately identifies the core dysfunction. The father is not calling his son. He is sending messages through the mother. The host calls this out directly: “Y’all playing telephone through your poor mom. Y’all are grown men.” The caller admits he and his father have not spoken in three years, ever since a fight between the father and the caller’s wife. The host presses him on this: “When’s the last time you called your dad and had a grown man conversation?”

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What you'll learn

1 (00:08) **Caller Introduces a Family Money Dispute** - The caller explains his grandmother's contested will, his father's $60,000 legal battle, and the inheritance that may go to him instead of his father.
2 (01:11) **Host Asks the Caller’s Age and the Money at Stake** - The host probes the caller's age (40) and the unknown size of the inheritance, which could be $300,000 to $500,000.
3 (01:37) **Host Challenges the Caller to a Grown-Up Conversation** - The host points out that the caller and his father are acting like children by communicating through the caller's mother.
4 (02:33) **Host Praises the Caller for Paying Off His Student Loans** - The host acknowledges the caller's hard work in paying off his $150,000 debt and warns against dwelling on imaginary conversations with his father.
5 (03:55) **Host Advises Freeing the Mother from the Role of Messenger** - The host repeats his advice to tell the mother to stop passing messages, freeing her from the conflict.
6 (04:14) **Host Questions the Father’s Motives and Trustworthiness** - The host casts doubt on whether the father actually spent $60,000, given his history of unreliability.
7 (04:47) **Host Contrasts What Could Have Been** - The host imagines a scenario where the father had asked the caller to join him in the legal fight beforehand, which would have been a different story.