Why We’re Having Less Sex — and Why It Matters (ft. Dr. Debra Soh)

What you'll learn

• 1 (04:21) **The Core Trend: Why We Are Having Less Sex** - Dr. Debra Soh introduces the central finding of her book *Sextinction*: a pronounced and global decline in sexual activity, most acute among Millennials, Gen Z, and especially young men.
• 2 (07:22) **Thesis 1: Digitized Mating and the Winner-Take-All Economy** - Scott Galloway proposes that dating apps have consolidated the mating market, creating a small group of people having a lot of sex while the rest have much less.
• 3 (11:16) **Thesis 2: The Vanishing Venues for Courtship** - Galloway argues that men need venues to "demonstrate excellence" and court women, but these spaces—work, church, bars—are disappearing.
• 4 (17:10) **Thesis 3: The Asymmetry of "Leveling Up" and Unreasonable Expectations** - Galloway asserts that women are ascending economically while men are not "leveling up" at the same pace, creating a gulf of qualifications, while women's "six feet, six figures" expectations have become unrealistic.
• 5 (28:07) **The Role of Alcohol and Anxiety in Social Lubrication** - Galloway suggests the decline in drinking among young people has a knock-on effect of reducing sexual initiation, as alcohol helps overcome inhibition.
• 6 (31:34) **The Return to the "Laws of the Jungle"** - Galloway posits that we are returning to a historical norm where a small number of men have a disproportionate amount of mating opportunities, moving away from the anomaly of the post-WWII middle class.
• 7 (36:00) **The Impact of Pornography on Male Motivation** - Galloway describes how easily accessible porn reduces a young man's "fire" or motivation to take the risks necessary to initiate real-world relationships.

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