Why Midlife Men Struggle with Identity & Purpose Today | Greg Scheinman

February 16, 2026

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Greg Scheinman spent two years as Harvey Weinstein’s personal assistant right out of college, a job that left him confused about what powerful men were supposed to be. Decades later, sitting in a parking lot on his 47th birthday, he had a breakdown. He was a partner in an insurance firm, financially successful, with a wife and two sons, a reserved parking spot and an office on the 24th floor. He did not want to go inside. That moment—one foot out the door, one foot in—became the origin of Midlife Mail, a media company built for men like him who feel stuck, unfulfilled, and unsure what they are supposed to become next.

The Parking Lot Tipping Point

Scheinman’s career had been a series of reinventions. After college, he landed as Harvey Weinstein’s assistant—a job he calls “incredibly confusing, incredibly conflicting”—and lasted two years before telling Weinstein to “fuck off” thirty years before the Me Too era. He went on to produce independent films, then founded a sports-video company for children that he sold to Michael Eisner. When pediatricians warned parents against screen time and retailers like Circuit City and Toys R Us collapsed, the business cratered. He was almost 40, with two children, a mortgage, and no obvious next move.

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What you'll learn

1 (00:00) **Episode Introduction** - Chip Conley introduces guest Greg Scheinman, founder of Midlife Mail, and previews a candid conversation about what men in their 40s and 50s struggle with regarding identity and purpose.
2 (02:08) **Greg's Backstory: Loss and Early Career** - Greg describes losing his father to cancer at 17, feeling rudderless, and landing a job as Harvey Weinstein's assistant right out of college.
3 (06:49) **Entrepreneurial Reinvention and Failure** - Greg creates a sports video company for children, sells it to Michael Eisner, then watches it collapse when pediatric guidelines and retail change.
4 (12:20) **The Dark Night of the Ego at 40** - After the business failure, Greg takes a diametrically opposite job in insurance and risk management, struggling with his ego and identity.
5 (18:15) **Struggle with Identity and the "Dark Night of the Ego"** - Greg details his lifelong struggle with identity, from being "his father's son" to "the film producer" to "the insurance guy."
6 (23:10) **The Parking Lot Breakdown at 47** - Greg describes his tipping point: sitting in his car, unable to go into the office, feeling trapped by conformity, complacency, and redundancy.
7 (26:45) **The Birth of Midlife Mail** - Greg starts a media company by interviewing men in his office conference room, creating a "how" brand for men who struggle with vulnerability.

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Show Notes

Ever wonder what happens when “success” still feels empty?

At 47, Greg Scheinman looked like he had it all, career, family, success, yet felt completely lost. That moment pushed him to reinvent himself and create Midlife Male, a movement helping men find purpose, strength, and authenticity in midlife.

In this episode, we dive into what modern masculinity really means, why so many men struggle with identity and purpose, and how to turn a midlife crisis into a life by design.

Tune in to learn how Greg turned breakdown into breakthrough and how you can too.

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction

00:24 Early Life & Family Loss

02:38 Working for Harvey Weinstein

05:03 From Film to Entrepreneurship

08:15 Lessons on Curiosity & Reinvention1

0:53 Identity Crisis at 40

13:29 Entering the Insurance Industry

15:16 Building a PBS Show

16:57 Struggling with Identity

22:20 Tipping Point at 47

24:33 Creating Midlife Male

26:30 Marriage Problems & Masculinity

30:34 Why He Built Midlife Male

38:48 The Modern Midlife Male Dilemma

41:37 Conviction, Curiosity & Courage to Speak

45:00 The Six F’s of Life & Finding Success

49:06 Raising Sons Today

54:56 Wisdom Bumper Sticker

57:07 Learning to Be Both Hard & Soft

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