Let Life Lead: A Different Way to Navigate Midlife | Nic Askew
September 25, 2026
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5 min readLet Life Lead: A Different Way to Navigate Midlife
Filmmaker Nic Askew doesn't interview people. He sits with them in silence—sometimes for 37 minutes—until the person in front of his camera stops performing and something else begins to speak through them. Askew calls these films "soul biographies," and the approach emerged not from film school (he never attended one) but from a hotel bar in London at age 39, when he was sitting with nothing—no book, no phone, no plan—and suddenly knew he had to pick up a camera. He had never held one before. Twenty-two years later, that same method defines his work: start with nothing, let the experience find you, and trust that what emerges from the stillness is more real than anything you could provoke with questions.
The Origin Point: Starting with Nothing
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What you'll learn
- 1 (00:31) **Who Are You Without Your Personality?** - Chip introduces guest Nic Askew, an award-winning filmmaker who makes "soul biographies" by starting with stillness rather than questions.
- 2 (02:04) **Nic’s Origin: From Adventurer to Filmmaker** - Nic recounts how he fell into filmmaking at age 39, after a career as an explorer and then an accidental CEO.
- 3 (09:11) **The "Start with Nothing" Method** - Nic explains his signature approach: he tells subjects to stop everything and let the experience find them, then sits in silence—sometimes for 37 minutes.
- 4 (15:13) **When Silence Becomes Service** - Nic describes a pivotal moment filming someone in deep grief who pleaded with him silently to stop pushing.
- 5 (16:16) **Ego vs. Soul: The Binary of Speech** - Nic shares his observation that people speak from one of two places: the ego (cognitive, performed) or the soul (stream of consciousness, unplanned).
- 6 (19:35) **Life Has a Jane, Not Vice Versa** - A former film subject reframed Nic's philosophy: "Jane doesn't have a life. Life has a Jane."
- 7 (21:06) **The "Do Nothing" Misunderstanding** - Nic corrects a common misinterpretation: he never says "do nothing," but rather "start with no thing"—a origin point of stillness before action.
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Show Notes
Sometimes the most powerful way forward begins by doing less.
Filmmaker Nic Askew has spent more than two decades capturing what happens when people stop performing and simply allow themselves to be seen. Through his Soul Biographies, he has discovered a different way of approaching connection, identity, and life itself.
In this episode, Nic explores:
- Why “starting with nothing” can reveal what effort cannot
- How stillness creates space for the soul rather than the ego to lead
- Why doing less can help us truly see and connect with others
- How letting go of control can reveal what comes next in lifeIt’s a fascinating conversation about soul, human connection, and learning to let life lead.
Watch the full episode and discover the power of starting with nothing.
Timestamps:
(03:24) Discovering Filmmaking at Midlife
(04:18) Picking Up a Camera
(08:54) A Calling Out of Nowhere
(12:14) Starting With Nothing
(16:53) The Soul Biographies
(17:32) Speaking From Ego vs. Soul
(19:17) Letting Life Lead
(23:48) Stillness Before Action
(28:13) Truly Seeing Others
(31:07) Deepening Connection
(37:34) Filming the MEA Community
(42:13) Seeing Beyond the Persona
(46:51) Nic’s Life Wisdom
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