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5 min readHow to Get People to Say Yes | Ryan Serhant
Ryan Serhant, the real estate mogul behind over a billion dollars in annual sales, didn't get there by faking it. He got there by becoming "future me" — a concept he insists is fundamentally different from "fake it till you make it." In this episode of The Knowledge Project, Serhant lays out the frameworks, mental shifts, and uncomfortable habits that turned a broke actor with a declined debit card into one of the most recognizable names in luxury real estate.
"Future Me" vs. Faking It
Serhant rejects the phrase "fake it till you make it" because, as he puts it, "it also implies lying, which I just think is the worst." Instead, he describes a practice of embodying the person he intends to become 12 to 24 months from now. He writes down who that person is, writes out their habits, and then acts accordingly in the present.
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What you'll learn
- 1 (00:01) **The Core Thesis: Embarrassment as an Asset** - Ryan Serhant opens with his central claim: being willing to be embarrassed is a direct path to making more money.
- 2 (00:22) **The Gift Setup and the "Future Me" Philosophy** - Shane gives Ryan a watch, leading to a discussion of how to level up in sales and the distinction between "fake it" and "future me."
- 3 (02:14) **The Million Dollar Listing Audition: Engineering a Persona** - Ryan recounts the elaborate strategy he used to get cast on the reality show, demonstrating his "future me" philosophy in action.
- 4 (09:43) **Theater as Sales Training: Embracing Embarrassment** - Ryan connects his childhood theater background to his sales success and explains why he recommends improv for his agents.
- 5 (12:07) **The "Thousand Minutes a Day" Framework** - Ryan introduces his system for valuing time as a finite, valuable asset to maximize productivity.
- 6 (16:05) **The Art of the Sale: Two C's and the Question Game** - Ryan explains his core sales philosophy, which prioritizes relationship over transaction.
- 7 (20:20) **The Art of the Follow-Up: Three F's and the Five-Year Client** - Ryan details his relentless, systematic approach to follow-up, which he considers a core skill.
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Show Notes
Ryan Serhant is a real estate broker, founder of SERHANT., and star of Bravo’s Million Dollar Listing New York and Netflix’s Owning Manhattan.
He explains how to sell without making people feel sold to: build a connection, help first, and earn the right to ask. He also breaks down the psychology of attention and persuasion, showing how to get people's attention, hold it, and turn it into business.
We explore why he rejects “fake it till you make it,” how he approached his Million Dollar Listing audition as the person he wanted to become, and why ego gets in the way of closing deals.
Ryan explains his time management framework of treating each day as a bank of 1,000 minutes changed the way he works, and why success can still feel insufficient after you achieve all of your dreams.
Enjoy
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(00:00) Intro
(01:52) Don’t Fake It Til You Make It - Do This Instead.
(09:37) Why Sellers Should Take Acting Classes
(10:45) Fear of Embarrassment is Keeping You From Success
(12:04) The 1,000 Minutes a Day Framework
(16:02) The Art of the Sale
(17:14) CODO: Serhant’s Method to Close Every Time
(20:32) The 3Fs to Land Your Follow-Up
(21:17) How to Use Google Alerts to Land Leads
(22:57) The Craziest Deal in Serhant History
(31:00) How to Handle Ego in Negotiations
(32:37) Finding Success After Rock Bottom
(37:36) The Mantra to Get Through Your Worst Days
(38:28) Building a Social Media Engine
(42:47) Starting a Personal Brand from Scratch
(44:30) Simple Framework for Building Client Relationships
(46:28) The Personal Cost of Success
(51:06) The Power of a Chip on Your Shoulder
(51:38) Your Past Explains You But Doesn’t Excuse You
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