1368: Predatory Faux Pro You Know Must Go | Feedback Friday
August 14, 2026
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5 min readThe Fake Massage Therapist Who Changed His Name to His Wife's License
A yoga instructor and massage therapist in a West Coast city wrote in with a story that sounds like a dark comedy plot—except it's real. A male therapist she'd known for years as "John" was hired at her spa under the name "Alex." She later discovered that John had legally changed his name to match his wife's, was using her massage license, and had never been licensed himself. When the massage board finally called about a sexual assault complaint, the spa manager—who had previously dismissed three women's accusations and revoked their memberships—confronted John. He confessed to sexually abusing fifteen women on the massage table, sometimes going down on them mid-session. Some women apparently paid him for it; many did not.
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What you'll learn
- 1 (01:32) **Welcome & Show Intro** - Jordan and Gabe banter about sushi restaurant customs, Japan travel, and Jordan's upcoming European tour, then set up the Feedback Friday format.
- 2 (06:06) **Case #1: The Faux Massage Therapist** - A yoga instructor discovers a male colleague used his wife's license to practice, sexually assaulted multiple clients, and is still active on booking apps.
- 3 (14:58) **Analyzing the Predator's Tactics** - Jordan and Gabe break down the legal and psychological dimensions of the fake therapist's crimes.
- 4 (27:39) **Advice on Intuition & Moving Forward** - The hosts address the writer's guilt over not sensing the predator sooner and offer a path to reclaiming trust in her gut.
- 5 (30:31) **Case #2: Dysfunctional Family & Going No Contact** - A 30-year-old therapist describes a family torn apart by trauma, where her mother brought her abusive father into the home and expects everyone to care for him.
- 6 (37:02) **Untangling the Family Dynamics** - Jordan and Gabe express compassion for the mother's trauma while holding her accountable for her choices and the pressure on the writer.
- 7 (42:29) **When to Go No Contact** - The hosts offer a framework for deciding whether to cut off toxic family members.
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Show Notes
A massage therapist you vouched for turns out to be unlicensed and a predator. How can you make up for your lapse in judgment? It's Feedback Friday!
And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in!
Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1368
On This Week's Feedback Friday:
- You're a massage therapist who vouched for a longtime colleague — then learned he'd never been licensed, was working under his wife's name, and had confessed to assaulting 15 women on the table. Despite this all being brought to light, he's still illegally working from an app. How do you protect your community from this creep and recover trust in your own judgment?
- You're a therapist who has spent years building boundaries against an abusive mother — the one who moved her deadbeat, family-abandoning father into the house and drafted your brothers as his unpaid nurses. There may be a fortune stashed in his home. You just hung up on your dad. Is it finally time to go no-contact?
- You're careful — only ever anonymous nudes, nothing identifiable. Then a cute stranger on Grindr coaxes out your number and Instagram, and by morning he's got your contact list, screenshots, and a 10-second ultimatum. You're blind with adrenaline, fumbling privacy settings. Do you cave, or call the bluff?
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- You're 27, and the thing you want most in life is to be a husband and father — but you've never had a real relationship. Then Sara, your roommate's ex (whom you cleared it with, like a mensch), started talking to you every day, and it finally felt different. Two months in, hopes sky-high, she ended it. Do you fight for the friendship,
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