1316: If His Ex Was a Rebound, Why's She Still Around? | Feedback Friday

April 24, 2026

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The Hidden Depths of a Family's Trauma

In a rare and unsettling moment, a listener who had written to the show months earlier about his estranged sister received an answer he likely never expected: his sister wrote in herself, revealing a radically different version of their shared childhood. Where he had presented himself as a rescuer who helped her escape their abusive mother, she described a brother who had strangled her, sexually assaulted her, and left her covering bruises with makeup before school. The contrast between the two accounts is stark, and it becomes the episode's central lesson about how incomplete any single story can be.

The Ex-Girlfriend Problem

The first letter of the episode comes from a woman whose husband maintains a close friendship with an ex-girlfriend named Kelly, whom he describes as a "short-term rebound." The wife feels threatened, and she has a list of grievances: Kelly hugged her despite clear body language signaling she wanted a handshake, Kelly once admitted to "stalking" her on Instagram, and the couple spent an entire dinner reminiscing about their past while she sat silent. The husband also made plans for their families to have dinner together without consulting her first.

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What you'll learn

1 Feedback Friday Outline
2 (01:51) **Opening & Banter** - Jordan and Gabe catch up, Gabe reports from a remote beach town in Brazil, Jordan previews an upcoming Disney cruise
3 (13:36) **Letter 1: Husband's Ex-Girlfriend Friendship** - A wife of 12 years is distressed by her husband's continued close friendship with an ex he claims was just a "rebound"
4 (18:42) **Analyzing the Ex-Friendship Dynamics** - Jordan and Gabe explore why this particular friendship triggers the wife's insecurity
5 (25:20) **Introvert-Extrovert Tensions & Practical Advice** - Jordan uses examples from Susan Cain and Vanessa Van Edwards to explain how different social styles create misunderstandings
6 (35:04) **Mid-Roll Sponsor Break** - Advertisements for 1800 Flowers, Lufthansa Allegris
7 (37:28) **Letter 2: How Long Should Therapy Last?** - A mechanical engineer questions whether therapy should continue after resolving the initial problem that brought you there

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Show Notes

He says his ex was just a rebound. So why does she get the warm smiles, dinner plans, and the stories while you get the cold shoulder? It's Feedback Friday!

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On This Week's Feedback Friday:

If you don't want to hear about Gabe's fabulous time in Praia de Algodões, Bahia or New York City, fast forward about 12 minutes to directly board the dooze cruise.
Your husband has kept in touch with his ex — a "rebound" who somehow never quite bounced out of his life — and a recent family dinner with her left you feeling invisible, outmaneuvered, and weirdly unable to articulate exactly why this friendship bothers you more than all his others. You're in couples therapy. So what do you bring up, and what does it actually mean?
You're a mechanical engineer who just started therapy for the second time, making solid progress on your concrete goals — anxiety, professional stuff — and yet the guys keep suggesting therapy is a long-haul thing, not just a pit stop. Is staying past your "fixed" point actually productive, or just expensive navel-gazing? You're skeptical. Are you missing something?
You've spent three years as the full-time caregiver for your nearly 100-year-old mother — a sharp-tongued, guilt-wielding, openly racist woman who refuses professional help and has boxed out your brother's Asian wife entirely. You love her, but you're starting to wonder if the best years of your retirement are being consumed by a woman who may just outlive your patience. How do you honor your duty without losing yourself?
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