1313: Ruined the 'Do, Ruined the 'I Do' Too | Feedback Friday

April 17, 2026

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"Ruined the 'Do, Ruined the 'I Do' Too"

The hair was botched—color and cut both wrong, the top longer in spots than the underlayer, frizzy in a way it had never been before. The friend who did it, Stacy, had been the letter writer's hairdresser since beauty school. When the writer asked for a fix, Stacy offered a slot three weeks out. The writer pushed back, got in two days later, and Stacy touched up the color but left the cut untouched. The writer hasn't gotten her hair cut in nine months. Two separate wedding stylists that summer asked her what had happened. This is the story behind a Feedback Friday episode that starts with a follow-up letter and unfolds into a layered conversation about friendship, family, boundaries, and the quiet work of rebuilding a life.

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What you'll learn

1 (04:26) **The Other Side of the Wedding Snub** - The fiancée of the man from an earlier letter (episode 1274) writes in to give her side of the story about why she was banned from her best friend's wedding.
2 (14:20) **A Husband's Blindness to His Narcissistic Parents** - A new mother struggles to protect her infant son from her in-laws, who have a history of abuse and boundary-crossing, while her husband remains in denial.
3 (29:44) **Defending the Advice to Avoid a Faith-Based Therapist** - A listener challenges Gabe's earlier recommendation that a Christian woman who had an abortion should seek a therapist outside her religious community.
4 (50:10) **A PhD Candidate's Existential Crisis After Sobriety** - A brilliant 28-year-old woman, newly sober and managing bipolar disorder, feels lost after finishing her PhD and questions if she even wants a career in academia.

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Show Notes

Your BFF wrecked your hair, kicked you off her bachelorette trip, and got your fiancé uninvited from his own brother's wedding. Yep, it's Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1313

On This Week's Feedback Friday:

On a previous Feedback Friday (episode 1274, question two), your fiancé wrote in about not being invited to his stepbrother's wedding, and now you're here to share your side. A botched haircut from your best-friend-turned-hairdresser, an explosive bachelorette trip exit, and a friendship that's been unraveling for years — all of it now rippling into your future family. Were you justified in blocking her, or did that make everything worse?
Your in-laws overstep every boundary you set, your father-in-law has a history of physical abuse, and your mother-in-law calls your infant son names — then cries when you push back. Your husband's in therapy but can't yet see his parents clearly, and you're left feeling like the only one protecting your child. How do you keep your son safe without losing your marriage in the process?
You're a listener who noticed that the show tends to steer people away from religious therapists — and you're calling Gabe and Jordan out on it. After hearing their advice to a Christian woman who'd had an abortion, you want to know: is there an anti-religion bias at play, or is there a deeper rationale behind the recommendation to seek help outside one's faith community?
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