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5 min readThe Wrong (and Right) Way to Apologize
The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
When Christian artist Corey Asbury posted a satirical rap video about getting a vasectomy, he thought he was making a lighthearted joke. The video was meant to piggyback on fellow artist Forrest Frank's viral "God's Got My Back" song, which Frank had written after breaking his back. But the internet saw it differently — thousands of commenters accused Asbury of being malicious, of "dunking" on Frank's trauma. Then Frank himself texted Asbury with words most men rarely say publicly: "That really hurt my feelings."
That moment became the centerpiece of a conversation about apology, humility, and what it actually means to repair a relationship after causing harm.
The Anatomy of a Real Apology
Asbury's first instinct, he admits, was to defend himself. He could have doubled down — pointed out that other artists had made similar jokes, argued that Frank was being too sensitive, or simply let the viral views keep rolling in. Instead, he did something harder: he stopped and asked himself why he wanted to make excuses.
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What you'll learn
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- 2 (00:22) **Opening: Marriage Communication and Losing the Ego** - Guest describes learning to prioritize his wife's heart over winning arguments
- 3 (02:35) **Different Conflict Backgrounds** - How growing up in a yelling household versus a silent one created relationship friction
- 4 (04:32) **The Comfort vs. Convenience Principle** - A practical marriage rule for choosing humility
- 5 (05:28) **Kids and Intentional Communication** - How five children forced more deliberate relationship habits
- 6 (08:10) **The "Home But Not Home" Creative Tension** - Balancing creative work done at home with family presence
- 7 (12:05) **Modeling Repair for Kids** - Why children need to see dad apologize and repent
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Show Notes
Cory Asbury joins me for an honest conversation about taking ownership, putting your ego aside, and learning to apologize without making excuses. We talk about why being right isn't always worth it, how to respond when someone tells you that you've hurt them, and why taking responsibility is one of the most powerful things you can do in any relationship.
Whether it's with your spouse, your kids, or someone you've hurt, this conversation is a reminder that real growth starts when you're willing to own your mistakes and make things right.
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