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5 min read"She'd Rather Scroll Instagram Than Have Sex With Me"
A husband named Dean called in with a confession that stopped him cold: his wife told him she gets more pleasure from scrolling on her phone than from sex with him. They had been intimate once in the previous eight or nine weeks. The night the conversation happened, she stayed up until 1:45 a.m. scrolling Instagram for three and a half hours after he had fallen asleep waiting for her. When he asked about it the next morning, she didn't take it back.
The Transaction Trap
Dean and his wife have been together eighteen years, married for ten and a half, with two daughters ages seven and five. Over the last year and a half, things have gone stagnant. The sex has become transactional. She told him, "If you go to the store and pick up these things for me, then we can have sex tomorrow." He went to the store and picked up the things.
Dr. John Delony didn't let that slide. "You're not a puppy," he said. "You're not gonna sit for a treat. That's not a relationship. That's not a way to live."
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What you'll learn
- 1 (01:43) **Dean's Wife Prefers Doomscrolling Over Sex** - Dean calls in, hurt and confused after his wife told him she gets more pleasure from scrolling on her phone than from sex with him.
- 2 (07:48) **The Real Problem: Disconnection Beyond the Bedroom** - Dr. Delony reframes the issue: the lack of sex is a symptom, not the root cause.
- 3 (10:14) **The Core Question: Does She Still Want to Be Married?** - Dr. Delony states the marriage, in its current form, may be over.
- 4 (11:35) **Flipping the Script: What Would She Say About You?** - Dr. Delony asks Dean to consider his wife's perspective and criticisms.
- 5 (13:03) **The Hard Conversation: The Old Marriage is Over** - Dr. Delony advises Dean to initiate a direct, honest conversation about the future of their marriage.
- 6 (14:08) **The Deeper Gulf: What is She Scrolling For?** - Dr. Delony probes the possibility of an emotional or physical affair, given the massive disconnect.
- 7 (15:43) **The Impact on Their Daughters** - Dr. Delony warns that the tension in the marriage is being absorbed by their 7 and 5-year-old daughters, even if the parents try to hide it.
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Show Notes
On today’s episode, we hear about:
- A husband whose wife chooses doomscrolling over sex with him
- A woman determined to end the toxic diet culture cycle for her daughter
- A man wondering if he should save his failing business
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