What you'll learn

• 1 (00:05) **Book Announcement** - John introduces his new book, *Building the Marriage You Want*, and frames the episode's core themes.
• 2 (00:28) **Caller JT: "I Can't Stop Yelling at My Wife"** - JT, from Oklahoma City, describes his struggle with uncontrollable anger that feels like a "nuclear reactor" breaking containment.
• 3 (08:16) **The Core Mechanism: Reclaiming Agency** - John argues that managing anger is not about controlling reactions in the moment, but about changing the fundamental story you tell yourself.
• 4 (13:22) **Practical Steps for Reclaiming Power** - John gives JT a list of concrete, actionable steps to begin the process of healing and changing his identity.
• 5 (15:56) **The Need for Professional Help and Forgiveness** - John stresses the necessity of therapy and the role of forgiveness as an act for JT's own healing.
• 6 (19:46) **Caller Roxy: Telling a Teen About Donor Conception** - Roxy from Phoenix calls about how and when to tell her 16-year-old son that he was conceived via a doctor's insemination.
• 7 (24:24) **How to Have the Conversation** - John provides a framework for Roxy to have this difficult conversation with her son in a way that sets the right emotional tone.

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