1455 - Aerimus Lost Wife #2 to Howfing and Now he’s Couple Swapping with Wife #3

May 12, 2026

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A Three-Time Husband's Journey Through Hotwifing, Polyamory, and Finally Finding a Partner Who Plays as a Team

Aramis—a pseudonym taken from the Three Musketeers—has been married three times, and each marriage taught him something different about non-monogamy, boundaries, and what happens when a kink becomes a weapon instead of a shared adventure. On the Strictly Anonymous Confessions podcast, he walked host Kathy through a decade-plus of sexual experimentation that went spectacularly wrong before finally going right.

The First Marriage: Cheating Born of Neglect

Aramis's first wife was, by his account, sexually conservative in ways that frustrated him deeply. He describes himself as someone who loves performing oral sex on women—"If I'm on my deathbed and I have twelve hours to live, somebody go get me a case of beer, a pack of cigarettes, and bring me all the pussy I can eat"—but his first wife didn't want him going down on her. She also disliked giving blowjobs, which he says happened roughly once a year for special occasions.

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1 Timestamped Outline: 1455 - Aerimus Lost Wife #2 to Howfing and Now he’s Couple Swapping with Wife #3
2 (01:30) **Host Introduction & Show Context** - Kathy sets up the episode and explains the anonymous format
3 (04:59) **Guest Intro: Aramis and His Three-Marriage Arc** - Overview of a man who has been married three times, with the second marriage being a hotwife scenario that went disastrously wrong
4 (07:00) **Marriage #1: Cheating Due to Sexual Neglect** - Aramis explains why he cheated on his first wife and how the marriage ended
5 (14:14) **Marriage #2: The Hotwife Fantasy Begins** - How Aramis discovered and tried to initiate his hotwife kink with his second wife
6 (22:14) **The Year of Education & Wife #2's Surprising Past** - How the couple spent a year researching the lifestyle before trying it
7 (24:56) **The First Red Flag: Solo Meetings** - The hotwife arrangement immediately goes wrong when wife #2 insists on meeting the first man alone

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Show Notes

Aerimus lost his second wife because of hotwifing and how he’s couple swapping with his third wife and he called in to talk all about it. Tune n to hear all the details including how he cheated on his first wife and when and how she wound up copping to having a girlfriend who wound up living with them, how he met and married his second wife and when he got caught talking about his kinks with someone else and how that eventually led to them hotwifing, how his wife wound up playing solo with her first bull and how and why he was never allowed at any of her other hook ups after that, how and why he allowed her to play solo even though he was dying to participate, how she eventually brought up wanting to be poly and why he agreed and how that led to their divorce and him meeting his third wife, when he started hoking up with couples and how wife #3 felt about it, how they wound up in their first full swap and what went down, how and why solo play is on the table with his new wife and how she feels about it plus a whole lot more.

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