Strictly Anonymous Confessions
Strictly Anonymous Confessions

1389 - From Making SexToys, to Bday Orgies to BDSM & Kink and Intimacy Coaching w/Nika

March 7, 2026

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Nika Sherrell’s path to becoming a pleasure and intimacy coach began not with a degree or a certification, but with a satirical art project: gun-shaped dildos. She was an artist making pieces that combined dildos and handguns, poking fun at gender toxicity and power dynamics. People saw the work and said, “I want to fuck that. Please make it a toy.” That single comment launched her into the world of sex toy design, which in turn opened the door to kink, BDSM, and eventually a coaching practice focused on helping people navigate desire, shame, and communication.

The Birthday Orgy as a Negotiated Fantasy

When Nika turned 35, she decided to create a fantasy she called a "harum"—a gathering where she, as a Dom, would be surrounded by submissives serving her. She sent out a message to friends, specifying that she was looking for submissives to attend. The goal was not just sex, but a carefully orchestrated experience. She filled roles deliberately: she wanted someone for anal, someone who was good at eating pussy, and someone to feed her during breaks. “If you’re going to have sex for hours, you’re going to want to have nourishment,” she notes. The group consisted of three women and one man, and the stated goal was 35 orgasms for her 35th birthday. They hit the target in about three hours.

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What you'll learn

  • 1 (07:33) **Guest Introduction & Origin Story** - Host introduces Nika Sherell, a pleasure and intimacy coach with a unique backstory involving sex toys, a birthday orgy, and BDSM.
  • 2 (13:05) **The Birthday Orgy: Planning and Execution** - Nika describes orchestrating a "Harem" for her 35th birthday, where she acted as the Dom surrounded by submissives.
  • 3 (18:58) **Kink Education: Dom/Sub vs. Top/Bottom** - Nika clarifies the difference between dominance/submission (headspace) and top/bottom (activity), explaining the concept of a "service top."
  • 4 (31:49) **Nika's Journey into Kink & Her Dom/Sub Relationship** - Nika details her seven-year education in kink before she began playing, and how she met her long-term submissive partner in a dark cuddle room at a kink convention.
  • 5 (41:55) **Transition from Sex Toy Maker to Coach** - Nika describes how her career evolved organically from artist to sex toy maker to podcaster to coach, driven by curiosity rather than a plan.
  • 6 (45:36) **Coaching Practice & The International Institute for Sexual Empowerment** - Nika outlines her coaching services for singles and couples, and her nonprofit's mission to create safe spaces for sex-positive education.
  • 7 (60:56) **Final Shout-Outs & Free Consultation Offer** - Nika promotes her podcast, products, and nonprofit, and offers a free consultation to listeners.

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Show Notes

Nika Cherelle called in to discuss her super fascinating story from making sex toys, to her birthday orgy, to getting into kink and BDSM and then ultimately becoming an intimacy coach. Tune in to hear all the details including when she started designing sex toys including the gun vibrator she designed and what it stood for, when she got into kink and what she learned about herself, the birthday orgy she had, exactly how it was set up and what exactly what went down, why everything in the bedroom should be negotiated and communication is key, when she got into kink sexually and the different things she got into, how she realized she was a dom and why she enjoyed it, what led her to becoming a pleasure and intimacy coach and who she works with and what she offers as a coach, the non profit she works for and the different groups they have that you can join plus a whole lot more. Get your FREE coaching call here:: https://linktr.ee/NikaCherrelle


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