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5 min read“I’m bored with the same things, but I actually don’t know what I want to try.” That line, from Dr. Emily Morse, captures the exact frustration that led her to create the Yes No Maybe list — a structured checklist of sexual acts and ideas designed to turn vague curiosity into concrete, actionable conversations. In this live session, she walks through how to use the list not as a gimmick, but as a genuine tool for communication, self-discovery, and breaking out of sexual ruts.
What the Yes No Maybe List Actually Is
The Yes No Maybe list is a comprehensive menu of sexual activities — from sexting and audio erotica to spanking, dominance, and orgasm denial. The idea is simple: you go through the list and mark each item as a "hell yes," a "no," or a "maybe." The goal is not to pressure anyone into anything, but to surface what you actually want and to give language to desires you might not have known you had. As Morse puts it, "Sometimes we know we want to mix things up and we want something different but we don't know where to start." The list provides that starting point.
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What you'll learn
- 1 (04:01) **What is the Yes/No/Maybe List?** - Emily introduces the concept as a tool to start conversations, explore curiosities, and turn sexual interests into reality.
- 2 (08:13) **Why Use the List?** - The list helps singles clarify what they want and helps couples add spontaneity, novelty, and variety.
- 3 (09:53) **Step 1: Prepare to Fill It Out** - How to bring up the list to a partner and set the stage for a productive conversation.
- 4 (11:44) **Step 2: How to Fill Out the List** - The mechanics of marking "yes," "no," or "maybe" on the checklist.
- 5 (13:11) **Key Terms Explained** - Emily defines several new or confusing items on the list.
- 6 (18:42) **Step 3: Turn Yeses into Reality** - How to move from the list to actual experiences.
- 7 (22:06) **Handling Differing Answers** - What to do when one partner says "yes" and the other says "no."
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Show Notes
In this episode, I'm breaking down one of my all-time favorite tools: the Yes No Maybe List. If you've ever felt curious about trying something new in bed but didn't know how to bring it up — or didn't even know what was "on the menu" — this episode is for you. I'll walk you through exactly how to introduce the list to your partner, how to fill it out (solo or together), and most importantly, how to turn your “yeses” into real plans you'll actually follow through on. I'm also sharing some incredible stories from our community, breaking down newer terms you might not have heard of, and answering your live questions about what to do when you and your partner don't match up on your answers.
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ABOUT EMILY:
Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.
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Chapters:
00:00 Introduction
02:30 What Is the Yes! No! Maybe? List?
04:40 How the List Can Improve Your Sex Life
06:20 Why Singles Should Explore Their Desires
07:40 Bringing Novelty Back Into Relationships
08:17 How to Prepare for the Conversation
10:20 Filling Out the Yes! No! Maybe? List
11:43 Exploring New Interests
15:00 Massages, Pleasure & Connection
17:10 Turning Your Yeses Into Real Experiences
20:30 Navigating Different Answers With Your Partner
24:48 Overcoming Shame, Fear & Blocks
32:08 How Desires Change Over Time
35:44 Healin
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