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5 min readEmily fields live listener questions on her 21-year-running Sex With Emily podcast, focusing on overlooked barriers to desire, arousal, and satisfying sex. She emphasizes practical tools like communication lists and habit-building while normalizing varied experiences from gym orgasms to bisexual attractions.
Physical Triggers for Arousal Beyond the Bedroom
Listener questions highlight unexpected arousal pathways, like "corgasms" from gym workouts. Emily explains these stem from intense pelvic floor contractions during heavy lifts, leg raises, or pull-ups—mimicking orgasm mechanics through muscle pressure, nerve activation, and blood flow. She shares a personal anecdote from her 20s using a thigh exerciser, noting it's possible but uncommon and often surprising. Blood flow matters for arousal (e.g., erections or lubrication), but it's the interplay of muscles, nerves, and brain signals that counts. This ties into broader desire challenges: stress from work or life disrupts the relaxed nervous system needed for wanting sex, turning focus outward rather than inward.
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What you'll learn
- 1 (00:04) **Shop Promo** - Introduces curated sex toys and products for pleasure and connection
- 2 (01:26) **Desire vs Arousal Defined** - Explains desire as mental want and arousal as physical response like wetness or erection
- 3 (06:46) **Gym Orgasms and Corgasms** - Answers if lifting causes orgasms via pelvic floor engagement, blood flow, and nerve activation
- 4 (09:20) **Bisexual Feelings Normalcy** - Affirms bi attraction is common, references Kinsey scale and societal pressures
- 5 (10:26) **Heated Rivalry Arousal** - Discusses why straight women get turned on by gay male sex in the Netflix show; suggests gay porn as safe, hot option
- 6 (13:16) **Estrogen Therapy Post-Menopause** - Recommends vaginal estrogen as safe and beneficial for most women; consult doctor
- 7 (14:08) **Compersion Explained** - Defines joy from partner's pleasure with others in ethical non-monogamy; contrasts with jealousy
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Show Notes
In this live episode of Sex With Emily, I dive into your real-time questions about sex, dating, desire, and connection… breaking down what might actually be blocking you from the intimacy and pleasure you want. From why it can feel harder to approach people or build attraction, to how stress, overthinking, and disconnection from your body and partner impact desire, I unpack the hidden patterns shaping your sex life. We explore everything from casual sex after breakups to how couples can reignite the spark, approach intimacy more intentionally, and create more ease, confidence, and fun in both sex and modern dating.
ABOUT EMILY:
Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.
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Chapters:
00:00 Introduction to the LIVE
01:16 How to Call/Text Your Questions
01:49 Valentine’s Day & 21 Years of Podcasting
02:36 Why Couples Love Listening Together
04:33 Desire vs. Arousal Explained
05:21 Can You Coregasm at the Gym?
06:59 Blood Flow & Body Responses
07:53 Is This Normal?
09:02 What Some Women Enjoy Watching
10:54 Vulnerability in Men & Relationships
12:38 What is Compersion?
14:10 How to Approach Someone at the Gym
18:45 How to Bring Back the Spark in Relationships
21:25 Yes/No/Maybe List (Game-Changer Tool)
23:48 Real-Life Love Stories (Gym & Neighbors)
24:16 Keep Dating Your Partner
27:09 Slow Cooker vs. Frying Pan
28:52 Final Thoughts & Where to Find More
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