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5 min read"Let's just all stop treating penetration like it's the main event. I beg you. Pleasure is the main event."
That plea from Dr. Emily Morse, host of Sex With Emily, lands midway through an episode built entirely from anonymous audience questions collected during her recent live shows in Chicago and Philadelphia. The episode is not a monologue or a scripted lesson. It is a raw, practical dispatch from the front lines of what real people are struggling with behind closed doors—questions about opening marriages, needing alcohol to have sex, feeling your body clench when your partner proposes something new, and the exhausting cycle of touch that always has to lead somewhere. The throughline is this: most sexual problems are communication problems, and the fix is almost always more specificity, less shame, and a willingness to separate the act from the outcome.
Opening Up Without Blowing Up
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What you'll learn
- 1 (01:00) **Stop Treating Penetration Like the Main Event** - Emily opens with a plea to reframe pleasure as the main event, not a prelude.
- 2 (01:13) **Welcome & The Mission to Save Sex** - Emily introduces the episode's theme: answering the most relatable questions from her live shows.
- 3 (03:35) **Opening Up Your Marriage: The "Why" Comes First** - A listener asks about the steps to take before opening a 20-year marriage.
- 4 (07:32) **Alcohol as an Aphrodisiac: The Real Question** - A listener asks if it's okay to only have sex after drinking alcohol.
- 5 (09:34) **Pushing Through Discomfort vs. Honoring a "No"** - A listener asks how to know when to push through a physical "clench" versus when to say no to a partner's request.
- 6 (14:08) **Non-Sexual Touch: Breaking the Cuddle-to-Sex Cycle** - A listener is frustrated that her partner always wants cuddling to lead to sex.
- 7 (16:20) **How to Approach Women: Outcome Independence** - A man asks how to get out of his head when approaching women.
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Show Notes
Chicago and Philadelphia showed up big for the Best Sex Ever tour, and I couldn't get to every question live. So here's the rest.
We're getting into the real first move before opening up a marriage, what alcohol actually does to your libido, and why your body tightening up mid-sex is information, not a red flag. Plus how to ask for foreplay in a way that actually lands, the cuddle trap where touch always seems to lead to sex whether you want it to or not, and a low-pressure way into kink and BDSM if you're curious but nervous.
Save sex with me, one city at a time.
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Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.
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Chapters:
00:00 Tour promo + coming up preview
00:54 Welcome back + tour recap
03:15 Opening up a marriage: where to start
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