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5 min read“I would never have learned to have multiple orgasms or to have different kinds of orgasms had I not mindfully masturbated. It did not happen in relation to somebody else. It happened when I was doing the work, the homework.”
That is the core claim of this episode. Emily Morse, host of Sex With Emily, walks through a structured workshop on mindful masturbation — a practice she distinguishes sharply from the quick, familiar routine she calls “maintenance masturbation.” The goal is not orgasm. The goal is exploration, presence, and building what she calls your own “owner’s manual” for your body.
Why mindful masturbation matters
Morse begins by explaining why people masturbate in the first place: self-soothing, arousal, relaxation, sleep, anxiety reduction, self-exploration. Most of us, she says, fall into a habitual pattern — “we’re in, we’re out, we hate it and we quit it.” That is maintenance masturbation: efficient, effective, and entirely unexamined.
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What you'll learn
- 1 (00:04) **What is Mindful Masturbation?** - Defines the practice as slowing down, being present, and exploring sensation, with the goal of exploration, not orgasm.
- 2 (00:40) **Why This Practice Matters** - Lists the core benefits of mindful masturbation.
- 3 (01:40) **Defining Mindful vs. Maintenance Masturbation** - Clarifies the key difference between the two approaches.
- 4 (03:02) **Mindfulness Refresher** - A quick primer on what mindfulness is and why it's a practice.
- 5 (06:30) **Setting the Mood for Self-Exploration** - Practical steps to create a ritualistic, distraction-free environment.
- 6 (07:26) **Why Mindful Masturbation is a Fun Practice** - Expands on the deeper benefits of this approach.
- 7 (10:50) **Step-by-Step: How to Practice** - The core actionable guide for the session.
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Show Notes
What if the key to more pleasure isn't doing more… it's slowing down? In this workshop, I walk you through a practice that can help you become more present in your body, reduce stress, deepen self-awareness, and discover what truly feels good to you. We talk about why mindfulness and pleasure go hand in hand, how to create a self-pleasure ritual focused on exploration rather than performance, and simple techniques to help you tune into sensation, quiet distractions, and build a stronger connection with your body. Whether you're looking to expand your pleasure, boost confidence, reduce anxiety, or simply learn more about yourself, this workshop offers practical tools you can start using today.
ABOUT EMILY:
Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.
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Chapters:
0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily
0:54 Why People Masturbate
1:56 Understanding Mindfulness & Being Present
5:30 Maintenance vs. Mindful
9:51 How To Set The Mood For It
16:53 Mindful Self-Pleasure for Vulvas
18:53 Mindful Self-Pleasure for Penises
21:32 Step-by-Step Mindful Routine
26:20 Q&A: In the Shower or Bath?
27:07 Q&A: Making Meditation a Daily Routine
29:59 Q&A: Why Self-Pleasure May Feel Unexciting
31:02 Q&A: Favorite Meditation Styles & Apps
32:42 Q&A: How Often Should You Practice?
35:28 Q&A: Scheduling Time
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