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5 min readOn the podcast Sex With Emily, Dr. Emily Morse argues that most relationships don't fall apart because of one catastrophic event. Instead, they erode through small, repeated habits that quietly chip away at connection over time. The episode is built around a list of these common mistakes, each paired with a practical workaround. The core message is that great relationships are not about finding a perfect partner, but about practicing a set of learnable skills.
The Biggest Mistakes and Their Workarounds
Dr. Emily identifies several key mistakes couples make, offering a direct fix for each:
- Protecting your partner from the truth. People stay quiet about small annoyances—a disliked sexual move, a partner's lateness—to avoid hurting feelings or starting a fight. This silence breeds resentment. The workaround is to speak up before resentment builds, using phrases like, "I've been really nervous to bring this up, but I want you to know me." A key tactic is to preface the conversation by stating, "I don't need you to fix this. I just want to be honest."
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What you'll learn
- 1 (00:48) **Mistake #1: Protecting Your Partner from the Truth** - Why staying quiet about small annoyances creates big resentments and kills intimacy.
- 2 (08:31) **Mistake #2: Trying to Win the Argument** - How listening to prove a point turns your partner into an opponent instead of a teammate.
- 3 (10:48) **Mistake #3: Believing You Already Know Your Partner** - Why assuming you know their thoughts, feelings, and desires shuts down connection.
- 4 (13:44) **Mistake #4: Correcting Before Connecting** - Why feedback fails when it arrives without emotional safety.
- 5 (16:39) **Mistake #5: Measuring the Relationship by How Often You Have Sex** - Why using sexual frequency as the only scorecard is misleading and damaging.
- 6 (19:18) **Mistake #6: Letting Conflict Linger** - How staying disconnected after a fight silently erodes the relationship.
- 7 (22:44) **Mistake #7: Keeping Appreciation in Your Head** - Why not saying "thank you" or "you look great" out loud makes your partner feel invisible.
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Show Notes
Let's talk about the small habits quietly killing your connection… because most relationships don't fall apart from one big betrayal, they drift apart from the little things we let slide every day. In this episode I'm breaking down the biggest mistakes I see couples make over and over, from protecting your partner from the truth to keeping appreciation stuck in your head instead of saying it out loud, and giving you a practical workaround for each one. I'm also answering your live questions on setting boundaries in short-term relationships and how to start the sex conversation with a new partner. Whether you've been together six months or 60 years, every one of these skills can be learned, and I promise there's at least one mistake on this list you didn't realize you were making!
ABOUT EMILY:
Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.
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Chapters:
0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily
2:33 The Biggest Relationship Mistakes Couples Make
4:09 Mistake #1: Protecting Your Partner from the Truth
7:46 Mistake #2: Trying to Win the Argument
10:02 Mistake #3: Assuming You Already Know Your Partner
13:00 Mistake #4: Correcting Before Connecting
15:52 Mistake #5: Judging a Relationship by Sex Frequency
18:03 Mistake #6: Letting Conflict Linger Too Long
21:25 Mistake #7: Keeping Appreciation to Yourself
26:03 Mistake #8: Ignoring the Power of Daily Habits
28:10 Mistake #9: Asking Questions That Go Nowhere
29:51 Healthy Boundaries in Casual Relationships
32:18 How to Talk About Sex With a New Partner
34:07 Final Thoughts & Tour Dates
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