Squirting, Threesomes & the Sex Skills No One Teaches You

September 4, 2026

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5 min read

“I don't like the fact that if I want to squirt, it's up to a man,” says Ava, a 27-year-old caller from Boston. She has been with ten partners but only two have made her finish, and she wants to take control of her own pleasure. This episode of Sex With Emily takes on three distinct but related challenges: learning to squirt solo, finding the right people for threesomes and partner play, and navigating the awkwardness of asking a partner for what you need in bed. The throughline is that sexual satisfaction requires active, personal work—whether that’s learning your own body, finding a compatible community, or having a difficult conversation.

The Solo Path to Squirting

Ava’s frustration is specific: she has squirted before, but only with partners who knew what they were doing, and she cannot replicate it alone. She knows her G-spot is the key—about two inches inside, toward the belly button—and that she needs firm, fast pressure from fingers, not vibrations, which feel too intense. But she has never learned to masturbate effectively. Dr. Emily Moriarty’s advice starts with a foundation of mindful masturbation: set aside time, turn off your phone, use lube, and begin with light, teasing touches on the outer labia and inner thighs before even approaching the clitoris. The goal is to become highly aroused—ideally having a clitoral orgasm first—before moving internally.

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What you'll learn

1 (00:00) **Episode Introduction & Sponsor Messages** - Dr. Emily introduces the show's mission and previews the call-in topics for the episode.
2 (01:34) **Show Opening & Mission Statement** - Emily lays out her goal to help listeners prioritize pleasure and liberate the conversation around sex.
3 (03:24) **Caller 1: Ava's Struggle with Squirting Independence** - Ava, 27, wants to learn how to squirt on her own so she isn't dependent on a male partner who knows the technique.
4 (04:41) **Advice: Taking Ownership of Your Orgasm** - Emily reframes the problem, emphasizing that Ava must become the expert on her own body first.
5 (09:49) **Product Recommendations for Solo Squirting** - Emily suggests specific toys designed to help Ava achieve squirting on her own terms.
6 (13:31) **Caller 2: Alex & Autumn's Search for a Couple-Friendship** - A couple in Orlando wants to open their sex life to partner play (threesomes, moresomes) but is struggling to find a couple that wants a genuine friendship first.
7 (15:45) **Advice: Navigating the Lifestyle & Managing Expectations** - Emily validates their intuition and suggests practical ways to find like-minded people.

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Show Notes

Let's talk about the sex skills nobody teaches you and why most people are still waiting for their partner to figure it out instead of just saying it out loud… because that's exactly what today's callers are done doing. In this episode I'm taking live calls from people who are done leaving their pleasure up to chance. We've got a 27 year old who wants to learn how to squirt on her own without relying on anyone to do it for her, a couple who wants to bring others into their play but can't figure out how to find the right people, and a woman whose new partner flat out refused to try to make her orgasm. I promise that last one goes somewhere really good. If you have ever felt like you were the only one carrying the weight of your own pleasure, this episode will change that.

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Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.

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