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5 min readHow to Stop Feeling Self-Conscious With a Partner
Sex therapist Emily Morse and fitness entrepreneur Jennifer Cohen sat down at a biohacking conference in Austin to talk about the connection between physical wellness and sexual confidence. The conversation ranged from performance anxiety to relationship polarity to the chemistry question that many couples avoid asking themselves.
The Senses Trick for Performance Anxiety
Performance anxiety in the bedroom works the same way as any other kind of anxiety—it comes from thoughts, not from the body. "Oh my god, what if I can't get an erection? What if I can't get an orgasm?" Morse says the fix is to get out of your head and into your senses. She recommends a quick grounding exercise: look around the room and name what you're hearing, smelling, tasting, and feeling. "When you locate all of your senses and what you're hearing, smelling, tasting, you immediately become present." If you're anxious during sex, you can say to yourself: I am feeling my hands on my partner's body. I am smelling this candle. That gets you into the moment.
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What you'll learn
- 1 (00:00) **Sexual Health is Wellness** - Emily and Jen introduce the core premise: physical health habits directly impact libido, confidence, and sexual satisfaction.
- 2 (04:40) **Sex vs. Intimacy** - Jen asks Emily to define the difference between sex and intimacy.
- 3 (06:20) **Overcoming Performance Anxiety** - Emily and Jen share practical strategies for managing anxiety in the bedroom.
- 4 (11:30) **Exercise as a Gateway to Confidence** - Jen explains how regular exercise directly reduces performance anxiety and boosts sexual confidence.
- 5 (15:15) **Navigating Conversations About Injury or Physical Limitations** - Advice on how to talk to a partner about a physical issue that impacts sex.
- 6 (19:55) **How to Approach a Woman (Polarity & Roles)** - Jen and Emily debate the dynamics of initiating a relationship and masculine/feminine polarity.
- 7 (27:55) **Sexual Wellness Conventions & Biohacking** - A brief tour of products at the biohacking conference, linking wellness to sexual health.
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Show Notes
What if the key to a better sex life has nothing to do with sex itself? In this episode, I'm joined by my friend Jennifer Cohen to explore the powerful connection between wellness, confidence, fitness, and sexual health. We talk about overcoming performance anxiety, why exercise can improve desire and arousal, the role honesty plays in intimacy, and whether chemistry can actually grow over time. Plus, we answer audience questions about attraction, confidence, relationships, and the habits that help you feel your best both in and out of the bedroom.
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Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.
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Chapters:
00:00 Why Sexual Health Changes Everything
01:14 The Link Between Feeling Good & Having Better Sex
03:12 Are Sex And Intimacy Actually The Same Thing?
04:47 Why Performance Anxiety Happens In Bed
06:10 The Trick To Stop Overthinking During Sex
10:00 Why Working Out Makes Sex Better
12:03 How We Became Friends & Started Talking About Sex Nonstop
13:44 How To Tell Your Partner About Your Insecurities
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