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5 min read“I think you should all check out everything I'm doing,” Dr. Emily Morse says near the end of her first YouTube Live, but the real work of the episode is quieter and more precise: she dismantles the shame that clings to ordinary sexual experiences. Across an hour of answering live questions, she addresses masturbation in relationships, performance anxiety, body consciousness, kink, and the mechanics of desire—always returning to the same core insight: most of our sexual problems are not about broken bodies or bad partners, but about being in our heads instead of in our bodies.
Masturbation is not a threat to partnership
A viewer writes that she feels sad, like she is not doing her job, after catching her husband masturbating. Dr. Emily treats this as a textbook case of inherited shame. “Masturbation is not a replacement for you in the relationship at all,” she says. “It's really just a different kind of release.” Solo sex, she explains, is often about stress relief, nervous system regulation, or simple convenience—not dissatisfaction with a partner. The real question is not whether masturbation happens, but whether both partners feel desired, connected, and sexually fulfilled overall. She recommends couples normalize the behavior by talking about it openly: ask your partner what is going on in the moment they want to masturbate, what they are thinking about. Even better,
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What you'll learn
- 1 (00:04) **Curated Pleasure Shop & Episode Intro** - Dr. Emily introduces her curated product shop and frames the episode around viewer questions.
- 2 (03:41) **Partner's Masturbation in a Relationship** - Addressing the shame and insecurity that arises when a partner masturbates in a committed relationship.
- 3 (07:11) **Kink is Healthy Play** - Validating a listener's interest in extreme bondage and explaining the benefits of kink.
- 4 (08:57) **Partner Has More Sexual Experience** - Advice for someone feeling inadequate because their partner has more sexual experience.
- 5 (11:22) **Solo Orgasms vs. Partnered Orgasms** - Debunking the myth that masturbating to porn makes it harder to orgasm with a partner.
- 6 (18:42) **Self-Consciousness & Being Naked in Bed** - How to stop being in your head during sex and overcome body image anxiety.
- 7 (22:55) **Upcoming Book on Desire** - A preview of Dr. Emily's next book, which addresses modern challenges with desire and spark in relationships.
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Show Notes
On Today’s live podcast recording from April 9, 2026, I answer your real questions about masturbation, insecurity, kink, communication, and how to improve your sex life with curiosity and openness. We talk about why masturbation is a healthy part of a thriving relationship, how to overcome insecurities about sexual experience, and the importance of communication and exploration.
I also dive into how to bring solo techniques into partnered sex, why self-consciousness during intimacy can kill arousal, and how to keep desire alive through changes in life stages. This episode is all about prioritizing pleasure, understanding your body, and learning to feel more confident in your sexuality. No matter your experience, there’s always room to grow and enjoy better, more fulfilling sex.
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ABOUT EMILY:
Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.
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Chapters:
0:00 Welcome to Sex with Emily
2:14 Masturbation in Relationships Isn’t Cheating
5:44 Kinks, Bondage & Presence
7:25 Inexperienced in Bed & Becoming a Better Lover
9:57 Solo Orgasms, Porn, & Partnered Sex Explained
14:13 Body Confidence During Sex
18:28 Emily’s New Book
19:40 Can Lesbians Enjoy Anal Pleasure?
22:06 Perimenopause & Low Libido
23:47 Why Some People Can Only Orgasm Alone
26:17 How to Be an Ethical “F-Boy”
29:14 Trouble Finishing
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