Ep 1401 | 'Death of the Pastor’s Wife': Everyone’s Getting This Wrong About JP Miller
September 28, 2026
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5 min readThe Netflix docuseries Death of the Pastor’s Wife has drawn over 41 million views by telling the story of Micah Miller, a 30-year-old woman who died by suicide in 2024 after years of alleged abuse by her husband, John Paul Miller, the former pastor of Solid Rock Church. But the episode’s central argument is that the widespread cultural reaction to the series—which pins the blame on traditional Christian teaching about gender roles—gets the story fundamentally wrong. The problem, the host argues, is not that John Paul Miller followed the Bible too closely, but that he deviated from it entirely.
The Case Against John Paul Miller
The host walks through the grim timeline. John Paul Miller was 28 and married when he first befriended Micah, who was 13. He later had an affair with her while both were married to other people. After they married, friends and family allege a pattern of grooming, coercive control, and sexual deviance. According to Micah’s lawyer, John Paul admitted in an apology letter to paying homeless people to try to commit sexual acts with her. He allegedly pressured her to take testosterone to match his sex drive, forcibly hospitalized her while taking her phone and car, and accused her of having a homosexual affair with a female friend—an accusation the host calls a common tactic among spiritual abusers who “use women to play out their own sexual fantasies.
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What you'll learn
- 1 (00:00) **The Core Thesis: Complementarianism Is Not the Problem** - Allie Stuckey opens by stating the episode's central argument: John Paul Miller's abuse stemmed from a deviation from scripture, not from biblical complementarianism.
- 2 (00:40) **Episode Introduction & Conference Promotion** - Allie welcomes listeners, offers a brief theological encouragement, and promotes the upcoming "She the Arrows" conference.
- 3 (04:11) **Setting Up the Discussion: The Netflix Docuseries & The Bigger Question** - Allie transitions to the main topic, framing the "Death of the Pastor's Wife" documentary as a catalyst for a larger debate about gender dynamics in the church.
- 4 (07:30) **Summary of the Case: John Paul & Micah Miller** - Allie provides a concise overview of the tragic events, including Micah's death, the alleged grooming and abuse, and John Paul's controversial behavior.
- 5 (13:11) **The Context of Alleged Abuse** - Allie lists a series of allegations and historical context about John Paul Miller to illustrate a pattern of troubling behavior.
- 6 (15:44) **Specific Allegations of Abuse & The DOJ Case** - Allie details the allegations of abuse against Micah, including grooming, multiple affairs, and coercive control, and notes the ongoing federal charges against John Paul.
- 7 (21:19) **The Critical Question: Is Biblical Teaching to Blame?** - Allie pivots to the central debate, introducing the argument from critics that Micah's death is a result of "Christian so-called fundamentalist teaching."
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Show Notes
In this episode, Allie looks at the Netflix docuseries “Death of the Pastor's Wife” which investigates the tragic death of Mica Miller and her marriage to Pastor John Paul “JP” Miller. Allie makes the important distinction that JP’s abuse didn’t stem from biblical alignment, but complete disregard of scripture to satisfy his own lustful desires. Addressing his past which in no way displays a life in submission to scripture, Allie looks at both complementarianism and egalitarianism and why they are not to blame for JPs abuse or Mica’s death. Furthermore, Allie looks at the biblical structure of authority seen in scripture and how JP’s church should have exercised discipline towards him long before Mica’s death.
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