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5 min readGrowing a Love That Lasts
The number one killer of love in marriage is not financial debt, adultery, anger, or hatred. It is neglect. That is the central claim Rick Warren makes in this final installment of his series on building lasting relationships. Drawing from 1 Corinthians 13:7, he argues that love is not primarily a feeling but a set of deliberate choices—four specific choices that, when practiced consistently, produce relationships that endure.
The Framework: Four Loving Choices
Warren builds his case around four actions that characterize lasting love, each drawn from the biblical description of love in 1 Corinthians 13:7. The first is extending grace. Rather than pointing out someone's failures, Warren argues, you change behavior by helping people see a picture of what they could become. He contrasts this with the common approach of "telling it like it is," which he says only reinforces the negative. "I don't tell it like it is, folks," he says. "I tell it like it could be." The practical principle: treat people the way you want them to become.
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What you'll learn
- 1 (00:02) **Introduction to the Series Finale** - Rick Warren closes the series "Finding and Keeping the Love of Your Life" with a message on growing a love that lasts.
- 2 (00:52) **The Principle: Treat People as You Want Them to Become** - Rick explains that telling people "like it is" only reinforces negativity, while preaching for faith and expectation inspires change.
- 3 (02:27) **The Number One Killer of Love: Neglect** - Rick identifies neglect, not financial debt or adultery, as the primary destroyer of marriages.
- 4 (04:53) **The Call to Act Now, Not Later** - Rick draws on his experience conducting thousands of funerals to urge listeners to give "flowers while they're alive."
- 5 (06:17) **The Fourth Element: Endurance** - Rick introduces the final component of lasting love: it endures the worst.
- 6 (07:47) **Personal Testimony: The $1,500 Counseling Investment** - Rick details the brutal first two years of his marriage and the decision to spend half his income on counseling.
- 7 (09:14) **The Exhortation: Don't Give Up** - Rick directly addresses those ready to quit their marriage, arguing that restoration is always more rewarding than running away.
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Show Notes
Only with Jesus in your life will you ever be able to love your spouse with God's everlasting love. Join Pastor Rick as he concludes this series about growing a love that lasts—by expressing faith, extending grace, expecting the best, and enduring the worst.
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