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5 min read🎙️ The Expert & The Context
- The Voices: Interview between host Chris Williamson and guest Dr. Max Butterfield.
- The Credibility: Dr. Max Butterfield holds a PhD in experimental psychology, MA in clinical psychology, MA in experimental psychology, and BA in psychology, with additional studies in religion, law, and languages. His research focuses on relationship dynamics, emotional regulation, evolutionary psychology, and social psychology, providing evidence-based advice on breakups, attraction, and interpersonal behavior.
🔭 The Executive Hook
- The Breakthrough: Grand gestures fail in breakups due to approach-avoidance conflict and emotional dysregulation; success requires slow, regulated investment like coaxing a scared cat, not lunging under a car.
- The Impact: Reframes relationships as skill-based, teaching self-regulation to avoid "trying harder" mistakes, boosting emotional resilience, partner retention, and mental health for longer, healthier bonds.
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What you'll learn
- 1 (00:00) **🎙️ Introduction: Dr. Max Butterfield**
- 2 (00:50) **Olympic Biathlete's Public Cheating Confession**
- 3 (07:38) **Romantic vs. Rational Breakup Fixes**
- 4 (12:37) **Self-Regulation After Dysregulation**
- 5 (14:20) **Breakup Recovery: Healthy Distraction**
- 6 (18:58) **Breakups as Grief; Neurological Parallels**
- 7 (20:31) **Why We Ruminate**
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Show Notes
Dr Max Butterfield is a physician, health educator, and performance coach.
Why does love make us do crazy things? Rom-coms make relationships look easy, but real love is far more complicated. So what actually makes a relationship work—and why does love make us act irrationally?
Expect to learn what science says about how should people do to recover from a breakup, if the Norwegian skier who confessed to cheating on his girlfriend was doing more harm than good to his relationship, what, Dr Max wished more men and women knew about how to signal interest, why we ruminate so much and how to ruminate less, what healthy communication actually looks like and much more…
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