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How to show up in any room with a low heart rate: Silicon Valley’s missing etiquette playbook | Sam Lessin

January 15, 2026

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5 min read

🎙️ The Voices & The Context

The Format: Casual, highly structured interview diving into practical etiquette tips, blending humor with actionable advice.
The Key Players:
- Host: Lenny, of Lenny's Podcast, probing with curiosity and sharing personal "aha" moments.
- Guest: Sam Lessin, partner at Slow Ventures, ex-VP Product at Facebook, two-time founder; now etiquette guru via viral tweet, classes (e.g., for YC founders), and his new book Etiquette.
The Vibe: Fun, hilarious, and surprisingly educational—think stand-up comedy meets startup survival guide.

🗝️ Key Themes & Topics

The episode unpacks etiquette as a superpower for founders in high-stakes tech scenes, framing it as "showing up with a low heart rate" and an abundance mindset to build trust amid commoditizing tech.

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What you'll learn

1 (00:00) **🎙️ Introduction: Sam Lessin**
2 (04:52) **Why Etiquette Matters for Founders**
3 (07:02) **Core Mindset: Low Heart Rate & Abundance**
4 (10:11) **Introductions & Entering a Room**
5 (16:22) **Conversations & Small Talk**
6 (23:55) **Hygiene & Dress**
7 (33:43) **Dining Etiquette**

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Show Notes

Sam Lessin is a partner at Slow Ventures, a former VP of Product at Facebook, and a two-time founder who’s now teaching etiquette to Silicon Valley’s founders. In this unconventional episode, Sam explains why proper etiquette has become a vital skill for founders in 2026—especially as technology becomes more central to society and trust becomes harder to build. His etiquette book and courses have become surprisingly popular, teaching founders how to “show up in a room with a low heart rate” and quickly build trust.

We discuss:

1. Why etiquette matters

2. Sam’s framework for showing up confidently, with a low heart rate, in any room

3. How to navigate introductions, small talk, meetings, and meals like a pro

4. Simple hacks for remembering names and handling awkward social situations

5. 30+ specific etiquette tips

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