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How to break out of autopilot and create the life you want | Graham Weaver (Stanford GSB professor, founder of Alpine Investors)

January 16, 2025

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5 min read

Graham Weaver, a Stanford GSB professor and founder of the high-performing private equity firm Alpine Investors, discusses helping students and himself escape autopilot living—unconscious routines driven by subconscious influences like media, peers, and fears—to pursue intentional paths aligned with personal energy.

Genie framework and direction-finding exercises

Weaver uses the "genie" prompt to uncover hidden desires: Imagine rubbing a magic lamp where the genie guarantees success and fulfillment in whatever career or pursuit you fully commit to—what would you choose? This bypasses fears of failure, revealing paths like a Brazilian student's nonprofit for underprivileged education or Weaver's own dorm-room company buys. Supporting questions include: What would you do without money needs (revealing enjoyment)? What's play for you but work for others? What's your embarrassing dream? Who do you admire and why? Or, in 5-10 years, what skill makes you world-class? The "nine lives" exercise lists nine exciting lives starting today (e.g., CEO, author, professor), helping integrate energizing elements into the current one without needing a full pivot, as lives evolve over time.

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What you'll learn

1 `* (05:38) **Common student dilemma: "What should I do with my life?"**`
2 `* (09:19) **Genie exercise: Imagine success without failure fear**`
3 `* (13:00) **Escape autopilot: Live intentionally**`
4 `* (16:08) **Key questions + tackle limiting beliefs**`
5 `* (23:09) **Follow energy over external scorecard; embrace time/suffering**`
6 `* (36:49) **Accountability: Coaches, friends, daily goals**`
7 `* (43:23) **Nine lives exercise: Explore multiple paths**`

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Show Notes

Graham Weaver teaches a top-rated course at Stanford’s Graduate School of Business (GSB), where he often unexpectedly ends up helping students figure out what to do with their lives. He is also the founder and CEO of Alpine Investors, a people-driven private equity firm. In our conversation, we discuss:

• Why everything worthwhile requires suffering

• Why most people operate on autopilot, and how to break free

• The “genie methodology” for discovering your true path

• The Nine Lives exercise for exploring different life possibilities

• How to overcome limiting beliefs that hold you back

• Why “not now” is often just another way of saying “never”

• More

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