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A guide to difficult conversations, building high-trust teams, and designing a life you love | Rachel Lockett

November 23, 2025

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Rachel Lockett, an executive coach who led HR at Pinterest and Stripe, shares tools from her work with tech leaders, CEOs, and founders. Drawing from live coaching demos with host Lenny Rachitsky and client stories, she explains how to coach teams effectively, align personal strengths with work to sustain energy, handle co-founder tensions, and conduct tough conversations using psychological insights like emotional attunement and mutual understanding.

Coaching over advising

Technical leaders often default to giving answers because they've succeeded as individual experts, but this trains teams to escalate problems instead of solving them. Coaching works when the team member has domain context and skills—shift to curiosity with active listening (beyond words to tone, body language, and context) and GROW questions: Goal (what's success?), Reality (where stuck?), Options (paths forward?), Way forward (next step?). In urgent cases or skill gaps, advise directly. A client running an AI startup shifted to squad KPIs and coaching check-ins, freeing time for strategy while empowering teams. Lenny's live session on endless work revealed patterns like reflexive yes-saying; options included stricter no-policies and reduced cadences for spacious tinkering.

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What you'll learn

1 *(05:03) **Guest intro and hopes for listeners**
2 *(09:24) **Coaching vs. advising: core leadership gap**
3 *(13:31) **Active listening demo (3 levels)**
4 *(18:37) **Powerful questions via GROW model**
5 *(27:38) **Live coaching demo: Lenny's endless work**
6 *(42:05) **Avoiding burnout: track gifts/energy**
7 *(60:39) **Co-founder relationships**

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Show Notes

Rachel Lockett is a sought-after executive coach and former HR leader at Stripe and Pinterest who now works with CEOs, founders, and tech leaders on emotional intelligence, resilience, and leadership skills. In this episode, Rachel shares powerful frameworks for coaching reports, having difficult conversations, avoiding burnout, and strengthening co-founder relationships. She also demonstrates these techniques through a live coaching session with me.

We discuss:

* When to coach and when to just tell people what to do [09:00]

* The GROW technique for helping people figure out a solution for themselves [18:37]

* Techniques for making difficult conversations less difficult [01:20:28]

* Avoiding burnout and designing a more energizing career [41:55]

* Building and sustaining a healthy co-founder relationship [01:06:50]

* Creating a one-page plan that aligns your entire company [01:31:47]

* Practical ways AI is transforming executive coaching and leadership development [01:36:50]

* Why you should ask, “Would I enthusiastically rehire this person?” to clarify talent decisions [23:55]

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