Inspiration for the Nation with Yaakov Langer
Inspiration for the Nation with Yaakov Langer

Let's Talk Divorce: The Raw Truth for Men - 3 Single Dad's Speak Up

March 22, 2026

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Three Men, One Conversation: The Raw Truth About Divorce

When you're married and see your child every day, you feel a certain amount of control. "But when you get divorced, you realize that you actually don't," says one of the three men in this conversation. "And it becomes much more stark because you don't see your kid as often. But you really never had that control anyway." That realization—that the illusion of control was always an illusion—is one of the quieter devastations of divorce, and it's the kind of insight that only comes from living through it.

Three divorced fathers sat down to talk about what actually happens inside a man going through divorce in the Orthodox Jewish community. One is a psychotherapist who wrote a book about his experience. One is a father who ended up representing himself in court after running out of money for lawyers. One is a convert who came into Judaism as a teen and found himself navigating divorce as someone who had always felt like an outsider. None of them claim to be an ambassador for divorced men. They speak from their own experience, and that humility is what makes what they say worth hearing.

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What you'll learn

  • 1 (01:50) **Three Men Share Their Divorce Backgrounds** - Emery, Dr. Morgenbaum, and Carlos each introduce their marriage length, divorce timeline, and personal journey.
  • 2 (08:31) **Stigma and Suspicion in the Community** - The guests discuss how divorce triggers gossip and a search for a "bad guy," making an already painful process worse.
  • 3 (10:52) **The Imposter Syndrome of a Divorced Therapist** - Dr. Morgenbaum reveals how his own divorce made him feel like a fraud while helping couples.
  • 4 (13:04) **The Man as the Default Blame** - The conversation turns to how men in the Orthodox community are often assumed to be the cause of the divorce.
  • 5 (15:55) **Losing Couple Friends After Divorce** - Carlos describes the social isolation that hits when married friends no longer include the single divorced person.
  • 6 (17:52) **The Divorce Process: Can Both Parties Be Happy?** - The guests debate the goal of mediation and the reality of adversarial systems.
  • 7 (22:16) **Is It Harder for Men or Women?** - The group challenges the common assumption that divorce is always harder for women.

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Show Notes

This episode dives into the harsh realities of divorce for men, including child support, custody struggles, and the hidden emotional weight they carry. From social isolation and stigma to the chaos of dating and blended families, nothing is left untouched. At its core, this episode is about resilience, self-reflection, and finding meaning after loss.


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→ Carlos' IG: https://www.instagram.com/akiva_carlos/

→ Imray's email: [email protected]


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✬ IN MEMORY OF ✬


This episode is in memory of:

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