430.- Cómo SOLTAR lo que DUELE: Amor, familia, trabajo, sueños - Gaby Pérez Islas

The conversation centers on why people cling to the pain of loss—whether from death, broken relationships, unfulfilled dreams, or lost roles—and how to release it without turning suffering into identity or tribute. Thanatologist Gaby Pérez Islas explains that grief is not a passive state healed by time but an active process requiring deliberate tasks to answer the questions each stage raises.

Why clinging persists
Pérez Islas notes that humans often remain in known discomfort rather than risk the unknown. Pain becomes familiar territory, and leaving it can feel like betrayal of the lost person or a failure of love. Secondary gains reinforce this: attention, lowered expectations from others, and a ready explanation for stagnation. Social messages equate prolonged suffering with the depth of love, so releasing pain seems disloyal. She distinguishes this from the actual size of grief, which matches the relationship but need not match its duration.