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5 min readThe Great Resolution Delusion
The two therapists sitting across from each other in this episode share a confession: they are both hopeless at New Year's resolutions. One writes herself post-it notes saying "study more, you dumb ass bitch." The other buys yet another planner every January, convinced this one will finally transform her into a different person. They know the psychology cold. They teach it to patients. They just cannot apply it to themselves. And this, they argue, is exactly the problem with how most of us approach self-improvement.
The Fresh Start Fantasy
The episode's central argument is that New Year's resolutions fail not because people lack willpower, but because the entire ritual is built on a psychological illusion. When January 1st arrives, people experience what anthropologists call "collective effervescence"—the buzzy, exciting feeling of participating in a synchronized fantasy where everyone pretends the past is irrelevant and a completely new person is about to emerge. This feeling is real, but it is also deceptive.
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What you'll learn
- 1 (00:01) **Episode Setup & Guest Introduction** - Julia introduces co-host Eliza, a PhD colleague, and sets up the episode's focus on New Year's resolutions.
- 2 (01:37) **ADHD Misinformation on Social Media** - Julia and Eliza discuss a study finding 50% of ADHD claims on social media are factually wrong.
- 3 (04:38) **Hot Take: Women Proposing to Men** - Julia and Eliza debate the viral trend and cultural conversation around women proposing to their male partners.
- 4 (16:59) **Mailbox: The "Useless Lesbian" New Year's Eve Story** - A listener shares a story about a confusing kiss from a straight friend at a New Year's Eve party, which Eliza analyzes.
- 5 (24:50) **Mailbox: "Word of the Year" vs. Resolutions** - A listener suggests replacing rigid New Year's resolutions with a single guiding "word of the year" to avoid capitalist, self-optimization traps.
- 6 (29:45) **The Psychology of New Year's Resolutions** - Julia and Eliza transition to the main thesis, explaining why resolutions are so hard to keep using psychological concepts.
- 7 (37:30) **The Neuroscience of Habit Formation** - The hosts break down the specific brain mechanisms that make resolutions fail and how to work with them.
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Show Notes
In the first episode of the new year, Julia is joined by Jewish Aliza to interrogate the concept of New Year's Resolutions. The girlies put on their therapist hats to explore the psychology behind a "fresh start," why most resolutions are doomed to fail, and how habits only stick once you stop trying to punish yourself into change. Digressions include Aliza's campaign to stop the lesbian yearning epidemic, debating whether being waterboarded is worse than proposing to a man, and the radical act of putting down The Bat.
This episode was produced by Julia Hava and Kylie Finnigan and edited by Livi Burdette.
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SOURCES
A.D.H.D. Videos on TikTok Are Often Misleading, New Study Finds
New Year's Resolutions Are Notoriously Slippery, but Science Can Help You Keep Them
New Year's resolutions: Who makes them and why
The Fresh Start Effect: Temporal Landmarks Motivate Aspirational Behavior
The History of New Year's Resolutions
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