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5 min readIn the first six years of his marriage, Diego Perez—known as Yung Pueblo—and his wife lived in a constant blame game. The mind, he says, does not want to accept responsibility; it always looks for an external reason to point the finger. Then, three years after they both started meditating seriously, his wife came into the room laughing. She had just spent two hours trying to figure out how the tension she felt was his fault, tracing it further and further back in time to find evidence. Finally, she realized: she just hadn't slept well the night before. That moment of catching the pattern in action became a turning point.
The energy drain of saying yes too often
Perez identifies five habits that constantly drain energy: saying yes too often, doubting your intuition, not resting enough, exhausting your nervous system, and—the one he emphasizes most—saying yes to too many things. "Saying yes to too many things is the path to burnout," he says. "You just keep adding on more and more things, more responsibilities, more objectives. It's easy to get lost." The more success you have, the more options you get, and the more miserable you can become because you have too many choices. His antidote is not obsession—which he describes as having "a bit of a cloud over your eyes"—but focus, which allows for adaptability. "Obsessed," he says, "is when I hear that word, I feel like there's
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What you'll learn
- 1 (00:00) **Episode Introduction & Opening Banter** - Brief ad read and host's introduction to the conversation about energy and burnout.
- 2 (01:05) **The Most Resonant Quote: Letting Go is Not a One-Time Event** - Yung Pueblo shares the line people most often get tattooed: "If the pain was deep, you will have to let it go many times."
- 3 (01:58) **The Mental Gym: Vipassana Meditation as the Foundation** - He describes his intensive meditation practice, including a 60-day silent retreat, as the key to reducing mental heaviness and unlocking creativity.
- 4 (03:31) **Obsession vs. Focus: The Founder's Dilemma** - Yung Pueblo pushes back on the startup buzzword "obsession," arguing that "focused and excited" is superior because it allows for adaptability.
- 5 (05:16) **On Love, Relationships, and Selfless Giving** - He shares his favorite piece of his own writing about love being selfless, not transactional, and explains the necessity of "taking turns leading" in a marriage.
- 6 (07:17) **How to Break a Bad Pattern: Slow Down** - He reveals the two-word solution to dealing with pain and darker tendencies: "Slow down."
- 7 (09:51) **A Personal Story: The Hurricane of Blame in His Marriage** - Yung Pueblo shares a candid story about the first six years of his relationship, which was a constant "blame game."
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You’ve been telling yourself the same story: you need more time to start meditating, the perfect conditions to find peace, or for everything to settle before clarity comes. But the only thing between you and the life you want may be believing you need something you don’t already have. Yung Pueblo is a bestselling author with millions of followers who has spent more than a year of his life in silent meditation retreats and meditates two hours every day.
In this episode, he breaks down how to let go of pain, why slowing down is one of the most powerful skills you can build, and how to tell the difference between intuition and ego. From the self-awareness that helped save his marriage to the 60-day silent retreat that changed everything, you’ll learn how to stop grabbing onto every emotion that arises and start creating your life with intention.
In this episode, you'll learn:
- Why pain has a magnetic force that can pull you toward evolution or trap you in darkness, and how building awareness through meditation creates the spacious mind you need to choose skillfully
- The slow down framework: how pausing before you react gives you the space to transmute defensive impulses into productive action, and why your first reaction is never the real you
- Why Yung Pueblo meditates two hours every day no matter what and how spending more than a year of his life in silent retreats taught him that the breath and the body give you total access to all the wisdom in the universe
- How to tell the difference between ego and intuition: ego is snappy, loud, and mental, while intuition feels bodily, calm, and like waves repeatedly pointing you toward the same direction
- The don't grab anything principle: how observing everything that arises without grabbing onto any story or emotion reveals that all pain eventually passes away, and why letting go is healing but never a one-time event
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(00:00:00) Introduction: The Burnout Trap and the Power of Saying No (00:00:31) The Tattoo Test: What Resonates Most With Millions (00:01:28) The 60-Day Silent Retreat: 14,000 Hours of Meditation (00:02:57) Obsession vs Focus: The Healthier Path to Success (00:07:43) Slow Down: Breaking Bad Patterns Through A
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