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5 min readTara Moore, author of Playing Big, has spent over a decade working with women on the psychology of self-doubt, fear, and leadership. In this conversation with Emma Grede, she explains that the feeling of "playing small" has little to do with your actual title or achievements. It is an internal sensation of being stuck, of knowing you are capable of more but unable to move toward it. The core obstacle is not a lack of skill or opportunity — it is the voice of the inner critic, a deeply ingrained safety mechanism that keeps you in your comfort zone at the expense of growth.
The Inner Critic Is a Strategy, Not the Truth
Moore defines the inner critic as a voice that speaks to you in a way you would never speak to a friend. It rarely says "you are a fool." More often, it says things like, "If that was a good idea, someone else would have done it," or "You can pursue that dream, but not today." This voice is not your identity; it is a strategy your safety instinct uses to keep you from risk. The problem is that this part of your psyche does not care whether you have a fulfilling or exciting life — it only cares about emotional comfort.
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What you'll learn
- 1 (05:47) **What "Playing Small" Really Means** - Tara defines playing small as an internal feeling of being stuck, regardless of external success.
- 2 (08:13) **The Physiology and Purpose of Fear** - Emma and Tara break down fear as a signal, not a stop sign.
- 3 (11:12) **Moving Forward While Still Afraid** - Tara introduces the ancient Hebrew term "yirah" to describe a sacred, expansive fear.
- 4 (13:20) **How to Handle Your Inner Critic** - Tara gives a concrete toolkit for separating from the voice of self-doubt.
- 5 (17:08) **The Radical Alternative to Self-Affirmation** - Tara argues that the solution is not thinking better of yourself, but thinking bigger than yourself.
- 6 (18:53) **Inner Critic vs. Realistic Instinct** - A practical way to tell the difference between the two voices.
- 7 (22:31) **Healthy Relationship with the Inner Critic & The Confidence Myth** - Tara explains habit change and redefines confidence.
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Show Notes
Emma sits down with Tara Mohr, author of the bestselling ‘Playing Big’, for a conversation that started as an interview and turned into something much more personal. Tara has spent over a decade helping women understand why they hold themselves back — not from the outside, but from within.
Together Emma and Tara get into why your self-doubt gets loudest right when something actually matters, the difference between your inner critic and realistic thinking, why chasing confidence is the wrong goal, and the two types of fear — one keeping you stuck, one telling you you're exactly where you need to be.
Then Tara introduces Emma to her inner mentor and walks her through the exercise live, on camera.
In this episode you’ll learn:
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What "playing small" really looks like, even when life looks big on the outside
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How to identify your inner critic and what to do about it
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How to tell the two types of fear apart
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The guilt trap and how to know when guilt is actually yours
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How to stop outsourcing your decisions and become the authority in your own life
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The inner mentor exercise
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