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5 min readConservative men are not flocking to leftist women because they respect them or find their politics attractive. They are sliding into DMs because they want to hook up, and leftist women are statistically more likely to say yes to casual sex. That is the central argument Amala Ekpunobi makes in this episode, responding to a viral TikTok that claimed conservative women cannot find husbands because conservative men secretly prefer liberal women. Ekpunobi dismantles the claim piece by piece, using data, logic, and a sharp reading of what DMs actually mean.
The DM Fallacy: Respect or Opportunity?
The original TikTok, titled "Why Single Conservative Women Can't Get Husbands," has nearly 100,000 likes and features a leftist woman claiming that conservative men are constantly in her DMs. She presents this as proof that conservative men want liberal women instead of conservative women. Ekpunobi immediately flags the energy behind the video as malicious, not analytical. "It is so clear that this video is being made out of a place of malice," she says. "This person hates conservative people, conservative women at that, and is leading with that first and foremost."
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What you'll learn
- 1 (01:00) **The Viral Claim: Conservative Men Want Leftist Women** - Amala introduces a TikTok video titled "Why Single Conservative Women Can't Get Husbands" that claims conservative men are sliding into liberal women's DMs instead of dating conservative women.
- 2 (02:35) **Debunking the DM Argument** - Amala argues that DMs are not an indicator of what men want in long-term relationships or marriage.
- 3 (04:11) **The Submission Question** - The TikTok creator claims submission is "antithetical to how most men operate," but Amala disagrees.
- 4 (05:39) **The "Chase" and Desperation** - The TikTok creator says men like the chase and that conservative women seem desperate, which is why men pursue liberal women.
- 5 (08:33) **"Be the Chooser, Not the Chosen"** - The TikTok creator claims conservative women are "the chosen" who accept whatever comes because they are desperate to marry.
- 6 (10:14) **What the Video Could Have Been** - Amala reflects that the TikTok could have been an interesting discussion about how men don't care about political affiliation in casual contexts, but instead it was an attack on conservative women.
- 7 (11:00) **The Data Contradicts the Claim** - Amala presents statistics from the Institute for Family Studies showing conservative couples are significantly more likely to be married and have children than liberal couples.
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Show Notes
Self-proclaimed “Liberal Mean Girl” Suzanne Lambert is going viral with a claim that conservative women have a hard time finding husbands because conservative men are “in the DMs” of liberal women like her. I have thoughts—let’s talk about it.
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